How do you deal with your mom during menopause?!?

My mother is beginning the early stages of menopause, however refuses to see a doctor and will not admit that it is in fact menopause. To her the house is just getting really hot and people around her are increasingly inconsiderate and idiotic. How do I treat her gently without losing my own sanity?How do you deal with your mom during menopause?!?
Yeah I feel you, when my mom was going through it I was around 20 already wanting to move out. Its weird you just have to take it one day at a time I guess. Obviously beng sympathetic is a great idea. Maybe you could try doing things she LIKES with her. That 's what I always did with my mom, and granted she'd be moodier than ever alot of the times, but hey I guess we have to deal with it right? I just thought of it like this she's pmsing but like 20 times worse...?How do you deal with your mom during menopause?!?
I am so happy about that!

Report Abuse

Be very sympathetic to her and her feelings. Menopause is not a very good time for us. Not only are our hormones all messed up, but this means we can't bare children anymore. And sometimes that is hard for a woman to deal with.



Try to make her as comfortable as possible and try to warn others about her irritability and what shes going through.



Also try to keep the stress level in the house down.
Well, there's not much that a doctor can do for your mom. Hormone replacement has proven to be a pretty bad idea. So being patient (for sometimes a long time...menopause and peri-menopause can take years!) and understanding is key. For some women, it's scary to go through menopause. It's a reminder that you're getting older, that your reproductive days are over...not really celebratory things in some women's minds. Your day, and my day, will come. So just try to be understanding.
Remember that for your mother, being pre-menopausal may herald the onset of being ';old,'; and for someone who hasn't come to terms with it, that's a terrifying place to be, particularly in the youth-oriented culture we baby-boomers came up in. Also - consider the idea that while she is pre-menopausal, she is not actually at the point of meopause yet, and her body is in a state of flux. More than anything, treat her with kindness, with courtesy, and with respect, and remember that she put up with YOU when your were an adolescent, so now it's YOUR turn.
It took my Mom some time to get used to the idea....and basicially get sick and tired of the hot flashes. She finally went for help a few years back and got put on hormones to balance her out......thank the Lord!



Sometimes all you can do is be supportive.....give her positive info.



Hope everyone gets relief soon!
Well Love you have to treat her with kindness and have a lot of patience with her, the same way she had with you when you were 2,3, and 4 years old. You see she is going through some things now that only love and patience can handle. So just be there for her. If she is feeling a little touchy leave and give her some space, she will feel better a little later on. Whatever it is that is bothering her probably has nothing to do with you. It's just that you are there and she reaches out at you because you're there.
BE PATIENT WITH HER!!! I had to go on medication that induced early menopause (i'm only 30) and it is hell. You have to also remember that you will have to go through it, too, one day. Get her a mini fan to carry around....menopause is hell.
Just agree with her. Thats all I can say.....she'll eventually irritate herself and go to a doc.