How do you deal with your mother in law ??

I have a 5 month old daughter ,and ever since she has been born ,and some what before , I can do no right in my mother in laws eyes . i dont feed my daughter enough , i feed her too much , she sleeps too much , she doesnt sleep enough ! Now when we go to visit my daughter isnt allowed near me ,or to even look at me while we are at her house . My daughter is turned to face away from me ,and told to not look at me that she sees me all the time , My husand tells me to talk to her about it ,but i dont think its my place to do so . i think it is his . Has anyone else went through this with there mother in laws ?? Please give me any advice you can !How do you deal with your mother in law ??
Yes, mother-in-laws! Well you could gripe at your husband , but that doesn't work. Arraign play date for grandma and daughter, let her keep her by herself. Then when you and the family goes, maybe she won't feel the need to occupy your daughter. Then you can always politely remind her that you are the mother and she did a fine job for your husband and you want to be the same for your daughter.How do you deal with your mother in law ??
ignore her its ur baby not hers. if she wants to tell you how to raise your baby she shouldn't talk. She ain't the baby mama.
comfortable or not, you've got to stand up for yourself. you gain no respect from that woman by using your husband as a go between. A firm, but calm, threat to keep her grandaughter away if she doesn't straighten up might work wonders. don't lose your head, or raise your voice just make a statement and let her know that's the way it is...
normally I would say its his place to tell his mother

but this M-I-L crossed the line

by doing this to your daughter



you need to tell her face to face to stop or she will not being seeing you or her grand baby unless she learns to act oh I don't know HUMAN%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;



please take a stand now before she gets worse

or things get harder to deal with



she might get hurt but in the end if she loves you which she should you do put up with her son

through good and bad.,

and have her grand baby



she will understand a stop behaving so crazy



good luck
A good part of the relationship you have with your mother-in-law will be accepting and forgiving. Learn to do that now and life will be a lot easier for you because you won't changer her.
This issue is between you and her. Not the hubby. You have to learn early in the game to confront them headon.



You have to tell her everything that bothers you and you can do it in a nice way. Atleast at first and if she doesn't respect you for that, your under no obligation to respect her and you need to say so!!



You also have to tell her if this keeps up, you will have to force things to ';boundries';.

Let her know she must of did a very good raiseing her son, cause you found him good enough to marry, but it is now YOUR turn to be a MOM!! Let her know she's hurting your feelings! This may be her grandchild, but it's YOUR CHILD!!



If she can't try and be a decent person and stop cutting you down, tell her you will have to stop bringing the baby over.
My first thought is, do not go and visit anymore. This will force your MIL to ask why you're not visiting. When she brings up the subject, tell her that her behavior regarding your daughter is inappropriate- you're the mother. I also think your husband needs to step up and support you and your feelings about this when his mother makes comments like that. It's not OK for him to be passive to appease his mother- you're his wife, he chose you! If I had to guess, your husband is the baby of the family and doesn't want to hurt his mother's feelings, which is understandable, however he's a grown person and should be able to tell his mom when he feels she's out of line.



Good luck!
I don't see her anymore and it has made my life so much better. It took a while to get here after I talked with her and my husband talked with her and still she had no respect for me as a mother. So, until she can get over herself, I don't have to see her and my son has limited contact b/c she is a bad influence on him. My husband is sad, not because of what I've done but because he is so disappointed in his mother's poor and immature behavior.
No I can't say that I have. My Mother in law loves me to death.The best advice I can give you is to stand up for yourself. I hate bothering mom-in- laws. You don't need your husband to speak for you. Tell her nosey a** to but out. And as far as telling your daughter to turn away from you, oh hell no. That woman is confusing your daughter. You need to really check her a** are you scared of her or what. Tell that B***H to back the hell off. Why do you let your daughter go through this stuff. Your husband is weak too, what kind of man allows that? Girl Boo I need to be kin to you. This is some Maury Show bull-s**t. Mother has daughter, Mother afraid of Mother -In -Law. I would stop taking my daughter around her period. Stop it now while you can, if not your daughter is going to grow up asking you, Ma while at grandma's house I could never look at you, WHY ? Then what are you going to tell her? Let me go back to work cause this pissed me off.



You don't need any advice , what you need is some BACK-BONE
You are correct, it is your husband's job to talk to his mother about this. She has no right to be disrespectful to you and this is not her business. I had a m-i-l like that but my husband spoke to her about it. I was so relieved because she listened to him and things settled down. Your husband's role is to step up to the plate and be the leader of the family. A leader takes control of a situation. I would also tell your husband that until this improves, you will not be going to visit his Mom. Good luck.
Tell her how you feel, be shure your husband is informed and agrees so he can back you up.

And most of all, tell her that you would like for your daughter to have a loving relationship with her grandmother.

Which would be tinted by any resentment you'd feel towards grandma, if things are not running smoothly.



Or move far away!