How do you deal with your mother in law?

so, this is the deal, me and my hubby have been married for 3 1/2 yrs. When he asked me to marry him I tried building a relationship with his mom, I called her, tried getting to know her and after a while I stopped because she never returned my phone calls when I left messages. I always called her, she never called me. I was doing the most work in trying to build our relationship. Now when I was able to get in touch with her we would talk. The only times that we speak is when we are around each other at family gatherings. Now there has never been any issues between us. Even now when his mom calls him, she doesn't asks to speak to me, she'll ask how our daughter is and that's it. I'm always telling him 'tell her I said hi' and he does and she'll say hi back but that's it. She has a really bad habit of calling people back which I found out but my thing is if you know you have a daughter in law and there has never been any issue why would you not call her sometimes? I've told her why I don't call and talk to her anymore but its like what was the point if it's not going to change anything. So how do you deal with someone like that, especially if you've made the effort and she still doesn't?



My hubby understands where I'm coming from but then he'll say well that's my mom. And the thing that got me is the fact the his brother just proposed to his girlfriend a few months ago and his mom has her number and has actually called and spoke to her but she has never once called me on her own to talk to me. When I think about it sometimes it hurts me still.How do you deal with your mother in law?
Do you know why it hurts you? Because you're trying too hard! You're really devoting yourself to something unproductive: your mother in law. Maybe she already made her judgment about you and is not interested in speaking to you. Why do you still bother?



Find a hobby and substitute your need for her attention with it.How do you deal with your mother in law?
through A Monkey at her







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