How to deal with the problem of big pressure between your mother vs the school?

Hi. I have a little problem. actually, sort of a big one. basically, last year in my school production, I took upon a part in acting and alot of people consider it a big part, especially for me because they hardly hear me talk/ act because im shy, so my mother was and is still mad since then because she dosent like to go to these things, and last year she didnt go (and cuz she didnt realize how big my part was, she thought it was small and who cares whatever) and because people loved my part and surprised them and stuff, they kept telling my mother how good I was and shaming her that she wasnt there. so she's still mad since then since they made her feel bad, and she still dosent wanna go and she dosent let me be acting this year, but I like to act and other stuff like choir are a bore to me, and Im my best in acting. So they gave me a little part this year, but I dont mind, and I never told my mother yet because she would be mad but last night I told her since there was practice for the first time (other than the one time in school) and when I told her, she got mad and said I shouldnt have volunteered myself in it and shouldnt have started without her and now she's all mad and she wants me out of it and im trying to cancel myself out, by telling the heads, but one is surprised cuz she said im the best one, and the other is I think a little taken aback because the production is in like 3 weeks but I have to cancel out for the sake of my mother- she comes first and I dont want to give her another hard thing on her head, she's already mad. So what should I do? I know some of you would say that do what YOU want and I should do what I want before anyone else's opinion, but I dont want to make my mother feel bad. besides, I had it last year. Im done with that and I dont have to be in acting again, even if it's small. I went through a big accomplishment with myself last year and a whole scene to surprise my school and community, been there done that, dont feel like going through it all again. I could just crap it out in choir, and get it over with, play is just in 2 1/2 weeks. So im really stuck now and I am even afraid to go to school tomorrow and the week to face the head's faces and I dont want to tell them the truth why I want to back out (because of my mother), I just have to say 'because I changed my mind, dont wanna be in acting this time' and that's all. Im going through a challenge now, need to know how to get through it. PLEASE HELP!

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Be true to yourself. Throughout your life you're going to find that you can't please everyone so you might as well please yourself. If your mother doesn't enjoy going to your plays then leave her alone. She should never be made to feel bad because she doesn't share your interests. Same for you. Go on and enjoy acting in school plays; just don't tell your mother. And please explain to your friends to keep their viewpoints to themselves. We're all different. Different strokes for different folks.How to deal with the problem of big pressure between your mother vs the school?
I don't want to get too personal or judgemental here. It sounds like your mother has insecurity problems and/or a traumitizing past emotionally. I can see your mind is going 100 mph and it is very emotional. Of all the statements you made in your question, you not once gave one good reason your mother had for not wanting you to continue with the play. You are the strong one here. Ten years from now you don't want to look back and regret not persuing your goals and dreams. Dropping out of the play will not in any way fix your mom's insecurity problems. She needs to be shown that she is loved. Take her out to social events like food fairs, museums, etc where she can interact with with others. She needs to stimulate new feelings and not dwell on the past. I know this because me mother has depression and not the best upbringing. She was divorced from my alcoholic dad. She is now making improvements because she is aware of her depression and is trying to fix it and enjoying life.
Thats sad,your mother doesnt want you to follow your dreams. You tell her this is what you want to do and she shouldnt discourage you.You rejoin that play and act your heart out. Good Luck and God Bless
that's a tough dilema, if i were u i would probably just withdraw from the play so u don't make yr mom feel bad
Whoa! What? You're saying you've ';been there, done that'; and finished with acting since what you did last year, but didn't you say you liked the feeling of everyone praising you for what a good job you did? Something tells me your lying to yourself so you don't feel so sad to leave theater.



Your mom should have supported you last year, but it was no one's business shaming her not going, that's just between you and her. But the past is in the past, your mom is putting herself first, before you. That's wrong, you're her daughter and whatever TRULY makes you happy should make her happy, too. Don't conform to something you dislike (choir), just because someone close to you doesn't like what your doing, doesn't mean you should give up.



Go on and take the small part in the play, and tell your mother that you are going to act and that you would appreciate it if she came to see it. She'll have to deal with it (and stop being immature), I mean, what is wrong with acting? It's a good activity for you to do. Hell, even ask if she would like to come to a rehearsal and watch and she'll change her mind.



Just the facts of life.