If your mother-in law opposed your marriage to your fiance?

Would you still get married if your fiance stilled wanted to marry you no matter what his or her mother said? If anyone's dealt with this how did you make it work? Did you avoid your fiances mom or did you just call the whole thing off?If your mother-in law opposed your marriage to your fiance?
My husband is an only child... so when we got married it was like I was taking away his mom's little boy and she kind of didn't like me for a while. We were never really close beforehand either... I just was polite when I saw her no matter what she said and kind of stayed away from her. We get a long a little better now... but it has taken 2 years of marriage. We still (obviously) got married and everything is great. I just occasionally let him go see his parents without me. I still go sometimes because I don't want him to think I'm not trying to get along. If you love him and still think it will work go for it. She'll come around... hopefully.If your mother-in law opposed your marriage to your fiance?
Yes, I would still get married. Depending on her objection, I might try to work it out with her, but ultimately I would still begin my life with my new husband and she could choose if she wants to be a part of it or not.
My mother-in-law never actually said that she opposed us getting married, but she did try to get his roommate to introduce him to other women after we got engaged. For a very long time, I worked hard at being the bigger person, sending cards and gifts, encouraging him to call his mom, making an effort to visit, etc. But after our children were born and she started treating them the same crappy way she had treated me for years, I was done. It has now been over two years since we last had contact with her, and they have been the most stress-free years of our 10 years of marriage. But your fiance has to be behind you on this, and stand up to his mother for you, or it will never work.
Marry him. In the future let him handle all details with his Mother from a phone call to seeing the grandchildren, to a holiday visit. Agree that she is never invited to your home, to a wedding or baptism, or graduation of anyone in your family or her grandchildrenj.
My husbands parents hated me for no reason. They had decided that they didn't like me before they had ever even met me! They tried everything to get him to break things off with me even to the point of threatening to cut him out of his will! We didn't even know for sure if his parents would show up at the wedding until a few days before hand. We married and have been married for 24 years this June. His parents like/love me now but it's been hard. We don't have a warm fuzzy relationship but it's ok. How we made it work is when he would go visit I hardly ever went with him. Lucky for us they've never lived more than an hour from us so it's not like he had to go for over night visits or anything. When the children came along my husband would take them by himself most of the time so they could all get to know each other and I think his parents liked this. It also helped that his brother was gay and never would have given them grandchildren so I was the only source :) Now that his parents are old and in poor health they seem to have forgotten all of the many rude things they've done to me and my thought is life is too short to hold grudges. They need me now more than I've ever needed them. We also refused to let them come between us. We had a lot of premarital counseling before we got married to help us deal with all of the problems that had come up and would probably come up in our married lives. I suggest that anyone facing such an ordeal get some good quality counseling beforehand.
You can make all the rules you want beforehand but, unfortunately, you are fighting an uphill battle. I've been there....I wouldn't do it again. Find a man whose family will welcome you. It will be so much easier.



Good luck.
Parental opinions should not play a role in one's marriage. So yes, I'd marry my fiance anyway.



However, I would never be in that situation, because a persons family and friends are part of the ';package'; when you choose a partner. If they don't like you, I consider that a problem.
Luckily I get along with my MIL, but my friend's MIL is a total she-hag. She's constantly being mean to my friend, and she even stressed her out on her wedding day. Now my friend is pregnant and even the prospect of being a grandma hasn't lessened her MIL's evilness. On the other hand, she and her husband are so happy and are really made for one another. It would have been a shame if her MIL's stupidity kept them apart.