I need your advice on how you would handle these problems with your family.?

Is this too much stress for a teen aged girl and how would you handle it? Let's just say that your father is completely blind, has many health problems, neurotic, obsessive, petty, quick to fly off the handle over the slightest thing, resentful, hateful, judgmental, harsh and mentally unstable as all hell. Your mother is a paranoid schizophrenic who is hospitalized due to not being able to function on her own. She is allowed supervised home visits from time to time. You see your mother every other week for 2 days at a time. During this time, you have to measure your mother's medications 3 times a day. You also have to deal with your crazy @ss father flipping out every time that something minor goes wrong. You are not allowed to go the movies or to the mall with any of your friends due to your father's numerous unfounded suspicions. This goes on for damn near 10 years with no cease. How would you handle all of these things? Would you run away, curse them all out, turn to drugs, sex and alcohol or fight through it, graduate from college with a 3.5 GPA and get the hell away from all of them like I finally did? I'm really curious to know what everyone else thinks of this horrible situation.I need your advice on how you would handle these problems with your family.?
this is very difficult indeed. i am so sorry that you have to deal with this. just reading it i began to thank God for my many blessings.



first off, if you have not spoken to a professional, then i think you should. my unprofessional opinion is this. i think anyone is such a difficult situation would have a hard time thriving. you are young, and have your life a head of you and you deserve to experience all you can. the situation is not your fault and you can not cure everyone involved. i assume you are not a trained professional, who can handle schizophrenia, therefore will be required to depend on outside help. regarding your dad, he has to acknowledge and seek the help he may need as well. lovingly i would make it clear that you will always be there, mentally to support them, but i would go and try to make a life for myself. should you turn to drugs, alcohol or sex you will only be masking the problem. healing from any of those additions would take so much time from your life, because following that you would still have to deal with the real problem. you need support my friend. you need to draw upon your faith or support of a counselor to learn how to cope with this situation in a healthy way. i don't think you have truly ever experienced a healthy way of living. give yourself the chance to see what that is like. you will learn so much about yourself, and who knows how many people you may positively impact including yourself. find your purpose and love yourself enough to keep hope alive in your heart. i know it sounds like a cliche, but hope is so powerful. it is like a like that just keeps refueling. best of luck and great big hugs to you.I need your advice on how you would handle these problems with your family.?
Before you go crazy and abandon your responsibilities, I suggest you put yourself in your father's shoes. He's probably very angry about the whole world right now. He can't do anything himself and has to depend on his child for almost everything. I know it's hard, stressful, and painful, but just think if that happened to you, would you like someone to just dump you for being sick.



Trust me, if you make it through this, you will definitely have a lot of patience in life. A lot of nurses or care takers do this as a career. It really takes a special person to handle this kind of responsibility.



I know you don't have a choice but to take care of your father. Perhaps, talk to him and re-assure him about your love for him. Sometimes, people who are sick or in pain can forget about everything around them and be angry at everyone without knowing it. Spend some father daughter time with him so at least he knows that if his health ever gets worst, he will always remember the good times you two have together. I know it's kind of stupid or sappy, but life goes by pretty quick and we miss a lot of things in life without knowing it.



Maybe try to find someone to help you take care of your dad when you want some fun time or me time. Hope this helps.