How do you cope if you HATE your mother?

There is no one in the world that I dislike more than my own mother. she makes me sick to my stomach. everything about her is disgusting. she's mean to pple, she wishes bad for others and she's just generally very mean-spirited and ugly. I just don't know how to deal with my anger. I think I will feel better if she's dead. I wish she would die ALL the time. I just hate her gutsHow do you cope if you HATE your mother?
Your question makes me sick!!! Have you listened to yourself?? You are horrible to say these things about the person that let you live inside her body for almost a year!!!





I don't care how mean or disgusting you think she is, Thats your Mother you talking about!!!!





If you hate her,, you are even worse than you say she is, and if you hate her, you are a murderer in the eyes of GOD himself...





I feel so sorry for you,, because your mother could change, and you could have different feelings about her, and you will never forgive yourself for saying these horrible things about her..





If you wish death on someone, it can swing around and bite your sorry *** instead!! What the hell is your problem?? You obviously have severe mental problems that need professional help.. You don't need yahoo answers help,, you need JESUS in your heart...





I am so sickened by your words that I can hardly think clearly.. If you are unhappy with the living conditions at home, you should talk to your school coulselor, and ask about goingto live with a realitive,, if you can find one that will take you.. You sould like a terrible person.. I would be ashamed of myself if I were you...





May GOD have mercy on your soul for all the hate you are filled with.. Hate comes from satan, and if you are filled with it, you are living for him...





You need to do some real soul searching,, unless you aren't worried about burning Forever in the firey flames of Hell ..





Not your life, but your very soul is in danger mister!!!!!How do you cope if you HATE your mother?
Very hard to cope. Im not in that situation but my grandmother treated my mother like sh** most of her adult life onwards. What she has said and done to my mother is terrible and yet my mum finds it hard to hate her but has decided she is better off without needing her in her life. I should mention my mother does go to councelling to deal with how she was treated. I told my mum who gets upset easily in a way to toughen up and accept that her mother will never change and to deal with how she was treated and then put her in the past. When my nan dies I think my mum will cope better, my nan was good to me but yes in a way now if she dies it wont affect me much and I hope it makes mum feel better in her life. For a respondant to say I hope it is a joke obviously they have not been in the situation where sometimes yes if the person is old you do hope they go soon because they cause too much pain to people around them. Just dont murder her, LOL. Maybe councelling would help or if she is that bad to you also, wipe her from youre life indefinetely or until she can shape up.
Okay, calm down. It would help if I knew what gender you are and what the deal is. Everyone hates their parents and wishes bad things upon them at some point in their lives. The best way to cope is to confront her possibly. If she really loves you she will talk to you. Don't get angry at her because it will only make her more angry. Try to stay optimistic because it can always be worse. You set your own mind set for the situation and if you want to cope with it another way, do so. If she is just plain mean and hates you to... almost sociopathic the best thing to do is the make her think your happy... there is no better revenge on someone you hate then having them see that you are happy... happy when they try yo make you miserable.
I know exactly how you feel and even worse is when people tell you you're out of order for thinking those things. Some people do bad things, getting over those bad things is part of life and makes us become what we are. A lot of people have a great relationship with their mum but some don't.





If you feel so strongly and have good reason to, then distance yourself as best you can and move on in life without letting her and the thing's she does affect you. It is hard but you don't want to end up a lot older and messed up because of things that you didn't deal with at the time.





Good Luck!
You can't change your mom, but you can change you, so start there. I don't mean that you are the mean, disgusting one, I simply mean to try this: See if you can look at your mom from a different point of view.





A lot of times when people are unkind, there is some underlying problem that causes that behavior. It doesn't make the behavior right, but if you can look for the reasons why she acts like she does...well, that is the first step is connecting with her. Instead of hatred, you might start to feel sorry for her and maybe even understand why she is how she is.





Was there something bad in her childhood? Did her parents mistreat her? Does she feel inadequate so she steps on people to elevate herself?





It is often hard to see, but look for the ';why'; behind the ugly behavior. Perhaps a new picture of your mom will emerge. You might even talk to her in a humble and sympathetic way about some of those reasons behind the behavior. It could be the best thing that ever happened to you two in your relationship.





Hang in there. I think you might be the key to turning this around for both of you.
I feel bad for you. Honestly the best way to deal with it is to talk to her about it. If she's just too stuck in that angry style of living then I would avoid her as much as possible.





It not as hard as you think. During the summer, just hang out with your friends during the day, make your own breakfast, and lunch. That way you only have to deal with her at dinner.





During the school year, make your own breakfast, get outta the house, you'll be at school all day, then after school get into a sport or after school activity. Once again you'll only have to deal with her at dinner time.





Try not to beat yourself up over it. Its not your fault shes a mean individual. Whatever you do, don't try to harm yourself in anyway. Just because she angers you doesn't mean you have to take it out on anyone or yourself, just AVOID her.





OH! not only are sports are good way to pass time and stay away from her, they are a good vent for frustration.





Good luck,





Hope things work out.
You should just be there if you can, and if your very angry leave. I mean, you don't want to start a argument or her, that won't be right. There might be something on her mind. Has she broken up witha boyfriend? Has there been a loss in the family? Stress at work? Ask her these things, see if you can step in and help. Some people are just born that way... I don't know why. If she was born that way, think of the possibilities. Bad parents, mean sister/ brother, mean kids at school, some type of abuse, rape... sorry if something terribly messed up came into your mind. Ha ha... Well, just tell her you don't like her attitude but in a nice way. You can't really do anything to change a person like that unless it was just recently.
Thats really harsh. Are you sure your not misinterpreting her actions?





Even if she is prejudice/racist and does drugs or something, you should HATE her, just dislike her actions. Don't hate anyone unless you know the true meaning of ';hate';.





Hey, I had arguments and disagreements with my mom when I was young and so did a lot of other people, but we didn't hate her.





Don't call CPS or anything; you will regret it. If things get really bad, got to another relative or at least file for emancipation if your over 14. And Defiantly don't kill her, you'll regret that too.
okay you need to take a chill pill!


shes your mother no matter what happens. she gave birth to you. if it weren't for her, you wouldn't be here today! she raised you since you were a baby. she didn't have to if she didn't want to. but she did, because she loves you. if shes bothering you, i'm sure you can talk to her about it cooly...


don't wish for her to die! thats horrible dude. she's your mom afterall. shes not some outside person who takes care of you. just think things over or go take a walk outside and reflect on your thoughts. take it easy!
Alright hun, you've had your rant.


Just remember, you've probably got several traits that she doesn't like either.


Before you know it, you'll be 18 and able to be on your own; then you can move away, and choose whether to be in contact with her or not.


Until then, just take it one day at a time, and when things get really tough with her, just go for a walk until you cool off.


Good luck!
Did you know that there is a fine line between love and hate? When people sincerely don't care about someone, they are detached and have no emotions about them.


Why don't you focus on what good traits your mom has and what she has done for you as long as you are still in her home? It will make it easier on the both of you.
wow well although this sounds kinda harsh i think ppl have a dislike to their mothers/parents at some point in our lives, some more then others but i think you should go to some kind of therapist and sort this out because if this anger goes on for a long time it can really be a problem for the both of you.
READ ALL THE RUBBISH I RITE ON YAHOO!!!???


And i promise you now, on this very day, if you feel, anything in your heart and ya mind worx, at even half the pace of mine=


You will love that woman with every breath you take?


Or?


You will walk away and make your own delvin life for ya delf, no matter wat yer age is.


I love ya!


And blood ain't thik sista!


Just think?


That is all YOU have 2 do!


Cope?


Cop?=CUP=pucker-UP!


WHY?


iS she like that? sum=one taught her 2b like that.


choice is choice!


Mind is heaven %26amp; hell.


LAUGH.


EYE DO!!!


x
Ok first of all she bought you into this world. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for her. I reckon you both should make an appointment to see a counselor and sort out your issues. Besides, it will be a great way to find out why shes been acting that way, and hopefully overtime things will start getting back to normal.
you shouldn't hate her too much. she brought you into this world.


have you tried to change her? or maybe something happened and she got really mad. or she might just need a day off...go to the spa or something...idk. try doing something nice for her, maybe she'll appreciate it. if niceness fails just try to ignore her. it works for me...
When you don't have to live with her, you will hate her less.


I suggest you stay away from her as much as possible.


All this anger is not good for you.
well, you sound very, very strong about these feelings.


i don't know you or the situation, but she did give you life. she is the reason you are here. pray about it! ask God to give you peace. nothing is impossible-the lord sent the rainbow as a sign he would never destroy us. %26lt;3
well don't kill her or anything lol.





it sounds like shes impending on your life.


get away from her.


move out of the house, i don't know how old you are but if you are under 18 then call CPS (child protection services)





good luck.
wow thats uhm...bad. try living with a different relative. when i'm mad at my parents and we arn't getting along i go to my grandparents or my aunts house for while.
Move out...if you are old enough. Or report her for child abuse and she will go to jail and you will be free.


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Just remember she wont have anyone to take care of her when she is old and helpless. And that you will be away from her forever when you are older!
write how you feel in a letter, then burn the letter.





do not show her the letter
this is just part of being a hormonal teen, suck it up princess, you'll appreciate her one day.
bummer...my mom is really cool.she is my best friend...your life must really suck.
Wow. I REALLY hope this is a joke...that's just wrong.
kick her in the cooch