How do you deal with this blow to your heart?

How do you deal with a father that will not allow you to speak about your mother who has passed on? Yesterday I asked about dating too soon after death but no longer think that is the case. I am wondering how you deal with someone who will not allow you to mention your own mother or talk about her because he wants to move on with his new Fiancee whom he is living with? Do you think he is being fair. She is their mother and he has not right to tell them they can not talk about her. He may of moved on and starting dating someone new that is fine but how can he expect his kids to get over her they never will. No one can replace a mother. They are all grown up but that is besides the point. Also the new girlfriend disrespects his kids and says bad things about them and he just allows it. I mean I know people have the right to move on with their lives but I do not think he is going about it the right way. What do you think and what would you say if you father said it to you about your mother who you were very close with when she passed away?How do you deal with this blow to your heart?
he's being very unfairHow do you deal with this blow to your heart?
I know that she was his wife, and he probably loved her dearly and misses her more than you know and you talking to him inflicts more unnecessary pain and heartache.



But she was your Mother. Whom you were very close to. Her memory shouldn't be a burden or a strain on anyone's heart. Her memory should bring happiness and smiles. You should remember your Mother and always be happy because she's up there RIGHT NOW looking down on you and your family, smiling. She's your guardian angel. She's the source of everything good in your life. She'll always be there for you and your family.



Your Mother wouldn't want her memory to be a source of pain. She would want her memory to bring smiles and joy.



I don't think he's going about it the right way either.
I dealt with this but it was my dads gf who wouldn't allow it. So what I suggest is talk to family that knew her well. Your dad just isn't ready and the fact he has another woman doesn't erase his pain of his lost wife I can assure you. You just need to talk with other family members for things about your mom for now. Your dad will open up when he is ready to face his own emotions.
Unfortunately, if the person your wishing to speak with about your mother is your father then he doesn't sound ready yet. He may have moved on but doesn't mean he doesn't still carry a burden on his heart. For now, respect his wishes and don't speak with her to him as it will probably just end in conflict between you anyway. You still have your sisters to share with and cherish your mothers memory. If the new girlfriend is disrespecting the kids that is something he will have to address with her as she is likely not open to advice from his children.