How to deal with your family hating tattoos.?

My whole family is so judgemental it makes me sick. I love tattoos and piercings but my family totally dispises them. They think only sluts and delincuents have them. It truly hurts my feelings. And it's ti the point that if they see me with one my father would deny me as a daughter and my mother would stop talking to me for the longest. I know I should care but after all, they are my family. What should I do.?How to deal with your family hating tattoos.?
You're not gonna like it. Aside from me, not a single person in all my family has had a tattoo. Except for my kids, step-children, and ex-wives. I'm a professional tattoo artist. My current girlfriend is a tattoo artist, as well. But the family that I grew up in, didn't get them, and aren't interested. Get used to it. That's what I had to do.How to deal with your family hating tattoos.?
Respect your family by not getting tattooed until you're on your own. And even then, when you see your family, there's no need to show it off if you know it's just going to upset them.
Don't worry about them. It is your life. Live it the way YOU want to. I know exactly what you mean though!
Wait until you're out on your own and then do what you want. Get your tattoos in places that are well covered in normal workplace situations (as to not affect your career dreams) and as long as it is tasteful your parents can't have a say. Once you're an adult, you're in charge of your own decisions and if you make them smartly your family's predijuces are their own problems.
Gee, sounds familiar, my grandma actually told me she has nightmares about my tattoos and piercings, it'd be funny if it wasn't so upsetting. When I asked her why she thought I'd never get one, first words out of her mouth were 'Well you never had drug or alcohol problems.'





Honestly, you have a couple of options, you can do what I did and be as respectful as possible and only be tattooed in places they won't see (a good idea anyway considering tattoos can affect your career). The only reason my family found out I was tattooed is because I was going through some serious personal trauma and was too stressed to think about covering the one on my wrist as normal. They were shocked to find out how many and how long I'd been tattooed for. Fortunately, I have the advantage of being the only grandchild, so I think that plays some factor in they're finally accepting the fact.





You'd be surprised what family will actually accept and people change. My other Grandma told my mom that she'd rather she came home pregnant than tattooed (she eventually did both) but loved hearing about my new work and even helping me work out a couple of ideas. My next piece is a memorial to her and my great grandma, adding on to the one I already have for my father.





I think even my mom was a little pissed about it. She was one of the stupid people who got a dumb tattoo at 17 and was afraid that I'd done the same. She had it lasered off when I was very young but it scarred horribly (it looks like a burn scar). But once she realized I'd done my research and knew what the hell I was doing she became comfortable with it, even to the point of asking me to introduce her to my artist....20 years after getting her first one lasered off and swearing off tattoos forever, she's got almost as much ink as I do.





Good luck man, family can get tough but just understand the fact that they care about you and even though it seems harsh they just don't want you to make something they see as a huge mistake.
How old are you?


My family hated it at first-my mom even asked me to skip Father's Day one year.


Now that I'm old(er),it's just sort of accepted as who I am.


I'm educated %26amp; work hard,I don't drink or drug,I am kind,%26amp; I'm inked.
Are you kidding me? You must have a bad home life if he'd truly deny you as his daughter. Otherwise it's a joke. If he's serious then obviously friends make better family. You can't control what they think, you can try talking to them about it though if you want. Sometimes family can broaden your views though so maybe after a while they'll start to tolerate it.





As your family, they don't have to like tattoos or piercings, but they should respect you regardless.





Edit: it depends how old you are too. I was guessing a new adult..18 or 19. But if you're younger, then just wait like the rest of us did.
This is a hard one but easy to compare.





We are all individuals and responsible for our own actions and sins. Many parents feel like they have to control the choices their children make and or try to live their dreams through their children.


Where does it stop? At what age will they allow you to make your own choice?


We live in a different era. And some parents have a hard time accepting what is norm now that wasn鈥檛 in the past.





What should you do? I have 3 advice:





First: speak with family member who accept tattoos and ask them what they think about the type of tattoo you want to get. This will give you a better idea to whether you are making the correct choice. (trust me)





Second: This is a step to independence and adulthood (please consider that there are many other ways of achieving this state) But a tatoo is on for life





Third: do not tell them that you got it. (they will find out later on and they might be mad at first but eventually they will see that you are no longer a young child that needs their care)





I hope this helps. tattoos should be meaningful. and it sounds like it might just signify growth in life.
listen to mommy and daddy they know best.. im so glad my family doesnt care about that stuff.
It all comes down to family and selfless, unconditional love. Any parent that would carry out the extreme measure of disowning a child is a worthless, selfish uncaring being of human waste. Reason? For the simple fact that any parent must be a parent in letting a 'CHILD' make their own mistakes after providing them a sincere and earnest account of the benefits, risk, impact on family status etc....all to the best of their ability while keeping in mind the unselfish meaning of doing so. Knowing this the 'CHILD' has a responsibility to the parent to listen, ask questions in clarification, understand and consider with an unselfish open mind how, why and all reasons given time for a viable and honest consideration and respect to them before acting on their own accord. (remember that your parents are responsible for your actions and responsible for others reactions of your concern by those whom the family [mom/dad] dictate be so considered)


If an adult child chooses to do something which the parent considers to be undesirable while living under their (parents) roof then that adult child deserves a wealth of ***-kicking and no less for being a disrespectful and selfish defect of humanity for exhibiting a lack of courage, absent in respect of self and others and do not deserve a damned thing until they get out and earn the right to make decisions external of the parental confines.


So....


...what should you do?


Exhibit no less than an honest, viable and courageous integrity of being with respect, understanding and honor of your parents wishes while knowing that having done any less will later in life usurp your own self-esteem, self-image and adult being most notable when a parent yourself.


NOTE: in spite of this being the last kind of crap ya' wanted to read or hear or whatever....


...trust me. You will be a proud and admirable being for doing so not to mention make two very, very special people happy and feeling better about you, themselves and others for a good long time to come. Also, ....they do not have to accept your decisions whether it be yours or not....they SHOULD respect your decisions if in the best interest of the family and not of the self....and once you are on your own.... respect the fact that they raised a child to an adult that is well capable of making decisions be they appropriate or not and that child was raised to accommodate any and all consequences which may so arise from those decisions.


Good luck
By realizing that they're right and you're immature.





If you were mature, you wouldn't be worrfied about this, just as a lot of posters' main concern is legalizing marijuana (or in my days in high school, some kids were worried about a drag strip as their main focus in life).