How can a grown son or daughter deal with a compulsively worrying mother's fears...beyond just walking away?

The great thing about growing up and moving away from home is that you don't really have to put up with your parents you-know-what anymore when they become so totally outrageous, you can just get away.



O.K. So now everybody is more than grown up...and now in their 80's they have become like your children...irrational...

fearful over anything they don't understand or don't want to deal with..and they want to use their relationship with you so you can hopefully make it all better and the Boogie Man of their fears will go away.



Abandoning your parents is not so much an option when you are the adult and have to stand up. But allowing them to drive you over the edge with all their fears is not healthy for you.



What might be some alternate strategies for dealing with your elderly loved ones when they get this way? For us, leaving the problem for others or shipping off to a Senior Center have not been choices we would accept.



Alternatives?How can a grown son or daughter deal with a compulsively worrying mother's fears...beyond just walking away?
They are afraid of dying, afraid life has passed them by, and feel rather lonely (lots of their friends may have already gone) and useless. Keep them busy. Make them feel needed. If there is a community center or senior center in your town, get them into some kind of activity, get them involved in something of their own.How can a grown son or daughter deal with a compulsively worrying mother's fears...beyond just walking away?
There is prayer and there is booze. Pick one.



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