How do you deal with your significant others family who dislike you?

I have been seeing the same guy for 5 years. He has 5 kids between the ages of 17 and 30. They have told their dad (my significant other) that they do not like me.

These kids are by 2 seperate mothers and ironically enough, I seem to get along with the 1st ex wife fine. The adult kids seem to have problems keeping their bills paid and making there way in the world. He has bought them all at least 2 cars a piece. One got a DUI and had to sell his car to pay a fine and he just recently moved out of his dads house at 28 yrs old because his girlfriend is pregnant and he finally decided he should get out. I bet they will be back in 6 months. One daughter shops herself into total debt, She lived with her husband and 2 kids with her dad and kept listening in on the other phone while he and I talked. I finally told her exactly what I thought of her. She has never worked ever at a job. Today the daughter has dads car because she let hers get re possessed. 1st car she ever tried to buy.How do you deal with your significant others family who dislike you?
u will never win this battle, they do not like u, because u are a hard worker, u have their number, and u stand in the way of them being able to use their dad. sometimes it is best not to marry a man who has kids, who are adults but still immature. they are spending your marital as setts and hurting your relationship.if they don't like u they will find a way to get dad to leave u, especially if there is constant turmoil, or if u stand in their way when they want something, know what should be done but i doubt if your hubby is willing to do it. had a stepson just like them, and a stepdaughter , nothing but 10 years of hell, putting up with not being liked, or treated fairly. than just when they all moved out they began having babies, that they brought over for him to babysit, and even the grand kid's had attitudes. so finally he left me, and we divorced and end of story.How do you deal with your significant others family who dislike you?
try not to say anything stupied or anything that will end up bitting you in te ***
You need to show them that you are there to stay and that they can get along or not.
stay away from them, they are the losers.
tell them all to kiss your ***
i dont....
I just ignore them, and just be myself.
I dont care, because I really could care less if they liked me i'd go home :) !!!!
find someone who does like you
Seems it's a mutual disliking. You shouldn't worry about them not liking you, when you obviously think negatively about them.
They sound like they need a bite of tough love, too spoiled and you should not take this personally. You are just a threat to thier financial needs...Just be polite and go with the flow. They sound like BRATS...sorry to be blunt but they think your in thier way of thier meal ticket.
I think they are worried that you may make their dad see sense and stop bailing them out all the time!!!!
ur significant other sounds like he is rich n his kids r insane spoiled brats



tell him to kick their asses out
this is a sad situation. i know it must be hard to see your boyfriend getting immaturely used. but these are family problems. although it hurts to watch it, it may be better to just sit back and let him deal with it. you may want to talk to him about it. i would never put down his kids in front of him though. i don't know if he could handle it. no matter what they are his kids and he loves them. I would just talk to him about it. let him know his kids are grown and you think they should assume some responsibility for their own lives. if this doesn't happen it could start affecting your lives as a couple. let him know he deserves to be happy too.
Run while you still can just run, just kidding you can't run from your problems so do what I do and just say f__k it!
';As sands through the hour glass....These are the days of our lives'; Girl, why would you want to be involved in this red neck family soup opera? You sound like an intelligent woman! Daddy won't let his kids down. That's a fact of life. I've got one of these leeches too. I know what they are and there is nothing I can do about it. Will I let them sink? Nope. Something about blood being thicker than water and the such. Run, run for the hills! You can do better. Hell, you can do better if you'd stayed single!
This family obviously has a lot of stress, however it is not your problem. You have your own stress. If your significant others children do not like you that is stress in itself. Just don't let that become personal when it is just that they are trying to get rid of that stress. Just befriend them as best you can as long as it doesn't bring you harm.
Well honey you are fighting a loosing battle. I was in a similar situation and although I loved my guy I had to step away. He resented my feelings about the children. I resented the kids. Thing is, they will always be his babies no matter how old they are. As much as you like the man, would you really like a guy who would side with his girlfriend over the kids? (if he does stuff like that that might explain the children's character.) Either make nice or stop wasting your time. Oh I stopped wasting my time.
Sounds like he is trying to be a friend instead of a parent. Unfortunately, he isn't helping them in the long run. What happens if he isn't around to help them out? They won't know how to take care of themselves. Really sad. I have a cousin who is in her 30s and cannot function without her dad. If I were you, I would tell him to either let them fall on their own, dont be there to pick them up, or else you have to leave. If you stay in this type of environment he will eventually take you down with him....trust me I know