Need help with crazy mother?

Has anyone had to deal with your own mother being the crazy one when your pregnant? I'm about 6 months and I have had it.

Shes nothing but a jealous psycho path whos jealous that Im pregnant and that I have a beautiful home with my boyfriend.

Number one she cant keep her mouth shut about me not being married, and acutally goes around telling distant family members that Im unhappy bc im not married, '; I actually had someone approach me at a social function and go with sad eyes you poor thing? because of what she has said.Oh yeah and by the way Im 30 yrs old not like Im 15 or anything. And also she hasnt called me once in 6 months to ask me how i was feeling and i just got word she wanted to throw me a shower. None of my aunts or uncles talk to her bc there sick of her lies about money, shes constantly getting thrown out of aparrtments for not paying rent. Now I m seriously thinking of imposing visiting restrictions when i deliver bc i dont want to even look at her face. help!Need help with crazy mother?
Unfortunately, She is your mother.



There is not much you can do about her jealousy. Some how she needs to grow up, but that is something she has to do. If things are that bad, you might have to tell her that you do not want her to be part of your life for awhile. If you do not want to be that extreme, then you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with her. You need to be the parent and start setting the boundaries and teaching her right from wrong.



Maybe you should start taking her to church. What a wonderful way to do something together.



congrats on having a baby.Need help with crazy mother?
You and your mother have different values. She feels that marriage should come first before a pregnancy and she may fear that the relationship you have with your boyfriend will not last after the baby comes. It also sounds like your mother has some financial troubles and may have emotional problems she does not know how to deal with since you moved out. She probably needs someone to help her by being compassionate with her and not rebelling against her. Who knows? Her concerns about your boyfriends long term committment intentions could be valid. You will have a family together. So why does he not want to marry you? Do not write your mother off just yet. You might need her again, someday. Best wishes.
You Poor Person
Well, you could clear the air with your family somehow, let them know you are thrilled to be expecting, in spite of the reports to the contrary.



you could stop contact with her all together. and you could impose visiting restrictions when you deliver. (but oh how you'll hear about that one- FOR YEARS- probably until she's dead)



your mom isn't going to change, but she's still your mother. so you'll have to decide what's best for you and your child in terms of her involvement.



good luck and congrats!
So sorry you have had this relationship with your mother and assuming all are like her.



I have four children and three are daughters and I have been there for each of them and never interfering and telling them what to do.

I was there for most of the birthing and held my beautiful grandbabies and offered my services any time. I consider myself blessed to have been given such wonderful children and 12 grandbabies to love and babysit.

It hurts to see young woman like you not knowing the closeness and being a friend.

Never imposing and being there when needed.

Do all that you need to that will make your new family safe and happy, congratulations on your precious baby.

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