How would you deal with this?

Your mother-in-law thinks that you suck as a mother and tends to be critical of your choices when she comes over both unannounced and uninvited?



Do you confront her at all or do you just let her little criticisms go in one ear and out the other?



Oh, and your husband is useless when it comes to dealing with his mother.How would you deal with this?
well, i wouldn't stand for it.

i'd be like,

';did these kids come out of YOUR vagina? no.

they're my kids. i'll raise them the way I want';





thats my opinion(:How would you deal with this?
I'm a firm believer that no one knows how to raise your children better than you. With that said, I would personally confront her with the issue, you don't need the extra stress!
id lock the damn door and keep it that way.
I'd say to my husband that either he has a quiet word with her or I tell her face to face what I think of her interfering ways.



If he didn't say anything then I would tell her politely but in a very 'matter of fact' way.
You show people how to treat you. Set boundaries! Tell her to get the hell out! Grow some balls. If your hubby won't, You Need To!!! I only speak from experience. This is YOUR life.
Well, useless husband means it's time for ME to lay down the law.



I would tell her she is not authorized to come over to your house unannounced or uninvited and let her know that she is not your mother or the mother of your child/children so please keep her criticism to herself. It's not appreciated and won't be tolerated.
Ignore it the best you can, it will probably die down when she learns that no one is listening to her complaints. Make sure hubby isn't acknowledging them or agreeing with her at all.

How is she getting in the house? I hope she doesn't have a key. If you are alone and don't feel comfortable alone with her, then don't let her in and pretend you're not there. When your husband is there, then let him deal with her and busy yourself with something else.
i would tell my husband that he needs to talk to her, or i'll will, and my way won't be a pleasant talk eaither.
grin and bear it she;ll get the hint after a while that you are going to raise your children the way you want and as far as hubby he doesnt want to hurt her feelings ,

he loves his mom
youre the mom ..you do things your way and one thing you insisit on is a phone call asking if you want company
wow you too? My mother in law is the same way. She's hypocritical of everything we do. She starts in on stuff and keeps at it until I just tell her off and then don't talk to her for weeks at a time!