Mothers...how do you deal with your significant other sometimes?

I know this is probably the wrong section, but I feel closer to all of you, as I frequent this section often.


I love my husband dearly. He is my world. He is 8 years older than I am, but usually that's not a problem.





Last night when we got home our home phone had been disconnected. Yes, I paid the bill, but it had not reached the office. I called this morning and they had no problem reconnecting as we have a good account with them. I've NEVER been disconnected for anything. Anyhoo, my hubby was upset. He went on and on about how important it is to have the phone for the chicken house alarms, and how much it affects our credit rating for being shut off (He has excellent credit, he's worked hard for).


Anyhoo, after I took care of the home phone, I called to pay our cell phone bill, as it was due. I paid over the phone with a check. That account is in my name, but he holds the primary phone, so they texted my payment confirmation to his phone along with the last 4 of my bank account number. He called me HOT!!!


Why did they do that? Is that safe? I've been on the phone all morning calling about this and that trying to get all straight. I understand identity theft is huge, but I think he goes overboard sometimes!!! I pure feel like a child being repremended by daddy this morning.





I'm sorry this is more of a rant, but I'm just at a loss. I don't like a lot of confrontation, and I hate for anyone to be mad/upset /disappointed/etc with me. I like for all to go well.





I've cried about it. I've apologized numerous times.... I'm just at a loss...





Am I right to feel like he should just get over it, or is he right to still be upset about it? I hate feeling this way. If I call him, he's really short and to the point. I can tell he's still upset about the entire situation. I'm afraid he's going to take the check book away from me....





I feel like I'm doing my level best. I take care of our 4mo old. I cook supper, I work full time, I clean (when I can) the house, I wash the clothes. I feel like sometimes I'm doing it all alone, and when I screw up, I get blamed...Like a child who's irresponsible.





He stays so busy in the chicken houses, that it's easier for me to pay bills while I sit at work. I don't mind doing things for him, and being a good wife and mother, but I feel like a total screw up today...





Any encouragement ladies?Mothers...how do you deal with your significant other sometimes?
Oh honey, he is over reacting.


Men do this from time to time, my husband does it sometimes as well. I used to get upset, but now have found that laughing it off, making a joke about it, or just not perpetuating the situation further can really help.





Perhaps he is extra stressed right now, and took that stress out on you with the one fault he could find.





I wouldn't cry nor get too upset about it really. A bill didn't get in on time, it isn't the end of the world. Really, it isn't. Your husband shouldn't be making such a big deal out of it either.





One bill not making it in on time is not going to ruin your credit. Its not as if they sent the bill to collections. You paid it and that's all. Not a big deal, really, it isn't.





I am sure you are doing your best, and that great. Don't beat yourself up over it. Tell him you are only human too, you do your best, and then drop it.





My husband has a tendancy to become over dramatic about things on occasion, and I don't take it to heart.Mothers...how do you deal with your significant other sometimes?
Typical man! My encouragement, tell him if he doesn't feel like you can do it the way he wants done, he can do it himself to make sure it is done the way he wants. (In a nice manner, act all apologetic about it in tone) You are doing the best you can and that's all you can ask for and what he should expect.





Oh and we had our cell phone shut off a couple times (for some reason AT%26amp;T does not get our check until 2 weeks after we send it) and they shut it off when it was one day late. It did nothing to affect our credit score.
He needs to get over it! You apologized, it's not like you knew they would send the text. You now see that they do send out a text, and how he reacts, and you won't do it again. He needs to lighten up. If he wants to keep hawkin you about it, just walk out of the room and go to the bathroom.
Wow I could not deal with that, I need a seperate account for my own salary and a joint account for bills that we share and he has his own account for his salary, I absolutley will not have my man 'in charge' of me!!! you work full time just like him but he doesn't share the work at home??? including the child care??? I....oh....my I better button my lip!! I better just say, talk to him about how he has made you feel and make it clear you need to be on an equal footing with him, you're both head of the family not just him and that means you not being made to feel like a naughty teenager!
I know where you are coming from. I hate confrontation or arguing. I used to always apologize first just to avoid the fight.





It took me a long time to realize that is not the way to handle this. I decided to stand up for myself even if it caused a huge fight and sometimes it does. I don't take that c**p any more.





The best part is that my relationship is better. My husband respects me more now. I have proven myself to be a worth adversary.





It was hard getting here but it is worth now. We are all happier.
You are a good woman and a good mother. You shouldn't feel like you have done wrong. If my partner was like that with me, he's be gone pretty soon, I'm not saying your husband is wrong or bad, but he clearly feels the need to control you and in my opinion there is no need for that kind of behavior.You are an individual and should be treated as such, I can't stand men who feel the need to exert power over their wives and girlfriends like they are children. A man should have respect for his wife and what she does for him and his children, for what she has been through and will go through and he should make every effort to keep her aware of this and show his respect for her. This is just my opinion but I don't see whats wrong with it. Its just sounds to me like you are getting grief that you don't deserve and I feel that is unfair.





Good luck to you and I hope your husband sees sense and apologises for being so hard on you.
i totally understand i accidentally over added 100.00 to the bills oh about 5 years ago .it still comes up. you know sometimes when a husband goes on %26amp; on about something its really not that he's concerned about you know? it just comes out that way . couples do vent their frustrations out on each other. so don't worry he'll come around eventually. you need to open the lines of communication with your husband tell him how this has made you feel but whatever you do don't attack him with it s all you fault etc. because this will cause problems explain in a loving calm manner that you feel overworked with the baby and household chores and time just got away from you. it happens. he'll either listen or not but its possible he doesn't realize how overworked and undervalued you feel and its possible HE feels the same. good luck and congratulations on your babies birth.
He doesn't respect you. I deal with the same issues. My fiance is 19 years older than me and your husband isn't as bad as mine. I get so fed up myself and I just think hes the crazy one. I know he is more experienced than me in some catagorys but not all of them!


I take care of the house, go to school, blah blah blah. It comes down to respect. I get so frustrated with him that I want to just curse him out. I'm serious. I try to let it go. I am a stubborn person and I'll do what I want to at the end of the day. I'll not let anyone rule me and if he doesn't like it.. then tough luck ... You just have to ignore his rants.


You are dealing with a perfectionist.
Tell him he can start taking care of the bills, then. I understand his concerns but how else are you going to pay it? I guess if there is a local store in your area that could be an option but sometimes it is not.





Sit down and have a lengthy conversation with him. It may make him more angry at first but he needs to realize how he's making you feel. You two are equals in this marriage, and he shouldn't be making you feel any different.
You sound like a busy person and it never happened before, he shouldn't be such a drama queen lol. He'll get over it. If he takes your check book then take your full time income and open your own checking account. BTW- your credit doesn't get affected by late phone payments. The only time credit will be affect my a phone/cellular provider is if goes to an outside collections.By that time you would have been out of service for months. So tell him to get over that cause he's fine as far as credit goes.
Sorry but you aren't really helping if you're paying the bills late! If you're going to do the job, then do it right! You could screw up YOUR credit paying late, so I don't blame him for being mad! If you can't pay the bills on time, then give him the check book and have him do it himself, if you are going to do it, then pay the bills ON TIME!