Dealing with a mother?

how do you deal with people or someone like your own mother that is addicted to pain pills she is 57 with her only son my husband whom is having a hard time dealing with it at times she takes so much she doesn't even know where she is almost worse than a drunk it gets so bad he has to put her in like a rehab but then in a couple of days she is out only to start again she does have some pain in her arms and thats how she gets her medication that she abuses even some doctors have turned her away because they figured out what she is doing how do you help someone that wont help themselves and can you draw the line at somepoint when they are your parent his father past away 5 years ago ';if only he was still here';Dealing with a mother?
First she has to admit she has the problem. But until then I would refuse to see her, tell her why, tell her you wont enable her. Find out every doctor she goes to, in advance if you can, and let them know what she is doing.

L.Dealing with a mother?
Intervention and sign her up for the nearest rehab
Boy, do I feel for the two of you. My sister is an alcoholic, and they basically act the same way. My theory, and it took alot of pain and tears to figure out, is we cant help them if they dont want to be helped. I havent heard from my sister since before thanksgiving and I probably wont hear from her until she comes begging for something. Tell your husband that this is not his fault, and he shouldnt get emotionally drug down with her. I know that its hard to do, but he should stop putting her in rehab,...she should go by herself. Please feel free to e-mail me if you have any other questions about behavior or anything else. Good Luck.
This is mainly your husband's problem..you can have little power except to offer ideas to him for his consideration. It is not a unique problem and many people have dealt with it and are glad to share their experience and advice.

Check out AlAnon and similar programs for the relatives/friends of addicts.
when adoctor sees a patient in ameaserable state ,he thinks inside him that he has to help and he is apart from him

he becomes as his shadow always reveales him so

Always reveal the pain from your husband if the bad thing in his life is his mother addiction ,So be the beautiful part in his life always tell him sweet talk be as abeautiful wind do not be as aload on him get him abeautiful present Think how to be his friend

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take the pills away from her
Hi, I would recommend for her to go to a rehab but remember first it is your mother in law that has to admit she has a problem. I work in a rehab and we have had many people addicted to painkillers. The program is the 12 step, patients do up to five steps in the rehab and the rest outside. It normally takes from 8 to 12 weeks to complete the five steps and then of course she has to continue going to meetings outside.Although I do not know where you live how the program runs but there might be a similar one. It is very difficult without any help to stop taking these pills as they are very easy to get but please do not give up, I know it is difficult but there is always hope. Good luck and god bless.