How do i deal with a mother that is so messed up but has been your whole life? I try to call but she does not?

answer the phone when i call nothing,plus i have 3 kids and its like she does not even care about them? I guess what iam trying to ask is should i just give up altogther and not call no more,or should i give her more time to GROW UP? I dunno iam lost for what to do...She is my mom still after all right?How do i deal with a mother that is so messed up but has been your whole life? I try to call but she does not?
By now you realize that your relationship with her will never be what you want it to be with your or your children. Maybe that's a good thing if she has numerous issues. Seems to me that it's more about you and what your willing to do. If continuing on this way is too difficult for you to emotionally cope with, then stop calling, but if you need to feel like your at least making the effort, then continue, but reduce the calls to a few times a year (d-day, holidays). Think of it as nothing more than leaving a message when someone is out, say hi, happy XX, the kids and husband are well and hope all is well with you. All you can do is put yourself out there, whether she calls or not isn't about you as a person, but rather her inabilities to accept and work with people and the world as it is. good luck.How do i deal with a mother that is so messed up but has been your whole life? I try to call but she does not?
I wouldn't call her anymore. Let her learn her lesson and then come back to you. Mom or not, she's still a person.
Hey Sarah. What i suggest you do is you just give her the space she needs. Just leave her alone. Until one day she'll have an epiphany and realise she needs to see and spend time with her grandchildren, then she'll call and you can then invite her into the home like family. But for now i suggest you leave her alone totally.
She is your mother not your mom. If she has not grown up by now she never will. Let it go.
Stop calling her for a while and see what happens...you don't say what her problem is so I will just say give her room...
Let her come to you My dad is like that we call we email we stop in at his house when we are in the area We always make the effort It is exhausting