How can do you deal with the mother of your step child?

Mt step-daughter is just like my own child. I have known her since she was 14 months old. Her mother never wants to let is see her and is always moving her around from state to state and city to city. She has had about30 different home in her almost four years of life. I haven't gotten to see her since the 12th of Feb.2005 and her mom won't let us have her until the 27th of Oct. We only get to keep her until Dec. 1st. I just want some honest advice on what to do about my situation. No stupid comments please!How can do you deal with the mother of your step child?
Does she have primary custody of the child? If the court has ruled that there are specific times that you and your husband are supposed to get the child, you can go to them and tell them she is not upholding that part of the agreement....If there is no custody rules or anything like that, you may be able to speak with a lawyer, but I'm not sure...your husband should have legal rights to the child, but you as a step parent and not an adopted or blood parent have no rights...I would definately try to ask a lawyer...try googling free lawyer advice...I know they have financial lawyers you can speak to for free advice...they should have family service lawyers as wellHow can do you deal with the mother of your step child?
why don't you try to get custody. Children need stable homes to grow up healthy in, not moving constantly. When you have her, talk to a lawyer.
you stay out of her business.
Have you tried sitting down and talking openly and honestly with your step child's mother? Explaining the effects that all the uprooting has on the child? Hopefully you can all three come to some common ground, if you have nothing else in common-it should be love for the child and the child's best interest in all of your hearts.
legally you and your wife if that may be the case actually have the case to suie the mother of this child due to the fact that the mother can not keep a permint home for this little girl so you honestly need to contact a lawyer and do you know what kind of health care this child has been given is the little girl taken care of food clean clothes and as we know about the whole houseing arragment so you have a case to get full custody and by the way you should also let the lawyer know that the mother will not let you and your wife see this little girl and this will even put more of a what they call a red flag in the legal system and so you need to talk to a lawyer right away the longer you wait the harder it will be to fight the mother or she can disapper yet again
Wow, we could be the same person!! maybe we could e-mail back and forth and help each other!
Honestly, the biological parent of this child should be writing this question...you as a step parent have no business asking. The well being of the child is between her parents. My daughter has a step mother that is always putting her two cents in where it does not belong. Her father and I get along much better when we discuss things and she is not around. If there is no custody order, your spouse should look into getting one. There is nothing you can do to help, but stay out of the way.