How do you deal with your mother in law's insensitive comments?

Well, we visited my mother in law 2 years ago. (We have been married for almost 4 years now and my husband has been divorced from his first marriage for 8 years). My mother in law has his picture with his ex-wife together still in the living room which made me somewhat uncomfortable. I had to ignored it since it is not my house and she is entitled to do whatever she wants, but this year at dinner table. She insisted on sharing this photo/scrap book project she is doing about my husband which also include his ex wife. My husband kindly told her, how about you skip that part (since I am right next to him). She decided to ask him in front of me..';Is is THAT bad?'; Helloooooooooooooooooooooooo, is there someone out there that wants to be divorced from a GOOD marriage? I feel she is pushing that boundary line that I hesitated to draw clear out of respect. But it seems to me it is going WAY TOO FAR.How do you deal with your mother in law's insensitive comments?
Ignore it, show her you're mature. If you whine, she will loose respect for you. She probably had some kind of bond with his ex.How do you deal with your mother in law's insensitive comments?
Ignore, ignore, ignore. Don't let her see how affected you are. In time she will tire off.
She's being very insensitive. Just keep your mouth shut and remind yourself that you are being a bigger person by doing that. Just try to respond, and not react. At least your husband is sensitive to the fact that you're sitting there.
I think your feelings are right! I think she is doing it on purpose to push your buttons. She is probably jealous because your husband is siding with you against her or what she wants to do. The sad thing is that if you were the ex wife and the ex was the second wife, she would be throwing you in her face. Ignore it! don't let her rent space in your brain, she is not worth your time. Love your husband and keep your marriage strong and that will aggravate her more than she could ever aggravate you! Good Luck!
Don't pay attention to what the woman is doing. If she knows that it bothers you then she will do whatever it takes to make you upset. Ignore the woman and act like you don't care.
I wouldn't ignore anything! If it bothers you, say something! Stick up for yourself!
You are in a very difficult position. Your only choice is to be the grown up and pity her. Disapprove of what she does in your thoughts and pity her. She deserves no better. On the other hand it seems like your husband is aware and disapproves. She has no where to go but down. Don't tale part. Let your husband handle it.
Mom is clueless..yet hurtful. Feel sorry for the old bag....if she that is all she has to do.



Sounds as if she liked #1 and is one of thoese 'marriage is forever' people. She won't change. Nothing you can do to change it.



So a few things to do.



1. Realize she isn't going to change.



2. Realize your husband gets it in asking her to stop.



3. Relaize you see her every 2 years so it is not like DAILY.



4. Realize you are a good person and nobody is going to take that away from you.



Go and live a good life with YOUR HUSBAND. Don't compete with the ex or the mom. And remember 'living well is the best revenge'.
She is being an IGNORANT A S S WIPE! Ignore her... for the rest of your life, ignore her ignorance. When she does this, swallow it down, and SMILE in her face like no body's business. (Hopefully you live far enough away that you don't need to see the ignorant biddy more than once a year, if EVER....) Your husband has already defended you, but if it really bothers you enough next time, have him talk privately to her. It seems like he is totally on your side, and that is a great thing.