How do you deal with a family member who comitted suicide and you were their last call?

But you missed the call and your mom blames you for it and you balme yourself because you know if you got the call you could've calmed them down. How do you deal with the guilt? How do you deal with your mother saying she wished it was you who died instead of her brother? What am I supposed to do now, this person was your best friend..How do you deal with a family member who comitted suicide and you were their last call?
you don't have any guilt your family member was is deep depression and even if you did answer they would have done it anyway .

your mum is grieving to but she is wrong to blame you.

try and support your mum indeed each other time will heal

and think of the good times you had together and live that memoryHow do you deal with a family member who comitted suicide and you were their last call?
I don't know how I would deal with that, but I do know your mom is a horrible person from what your saying and you should start by getting away from her.
Grief over a loved one is horrible, but no fault or blame should be placed on anyone. Your family needs professional help on this matter with a counselor or priest. Try getting in touch with a suicide hotline and ask where to get help. Your Mother is obviously grief stricken and does not mean what she says at this time. Try to love yourself, her and get some help ASAP.
Well first off I've been there so NO it's not your fault and regardless if you got the call or not when someone wants to kill themselves they do. You mother is wrong to blame you, but she's looking for an outlet and NO MATTER WHAT she says, it's not your fault and your brother would tell you the same. My friend did the same thing only I saw her and calmed her down and she still did it. It didn't matter, she wanted to die and NOT ONE DAY do I blame myself. i did for the longest time but I realized that you don't expect these things. So go to a counselor or psychologist and talk about the guilt because it will fester and turn into something worse. Dealing with your mother, tell her flat out ';I AM NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR MY BROTHERS ACTIONS, IT WAS HIS DECISION NOT MINE';. Make sure she knows that you love him very much and you had no control over what happened because reagardless if you spoke with him and calmed him down he still prob would have done it. Do not let your mother make you feel guilty.. GO TO A PSYCHOLOGIST and FAMILY COUNSELOUR.
It is not your fault..seek professional counseling