How do you deal with your child's mothers/fathers partner?

Hi i am single and have a 8 month old baby , His dad has a new girlfriend who will be there when our baby see's his dad.

I would love to know how people deal with this situation and whats a good way to look at it.

Im sort of ok with it, well I have to be really !

Does anyone know any good ways to deal with it ?

I just need to get my head around it but how ?please help !How do you deal with your child's mothers/fathers partner?
Been there, wore the t-shirt. ;)



First and foremost, you MUST meet this woman. It would be great to feel her out and develop an impression of her before your baby will be around her for long periods of time. It would also be wonderful if you could develop somewhat of an amicable relationship with her. Trust me, it only makes things easier for all.



On the other hand, if she rubs you the wrong way, or has bad habits that you don't want your child subjected to, speak up too. But don't borrow trouble. Only raise the concern if there is a valid one.



As long as your ex is happy and your baby is in good hands and well taken care of, I wouldn't worry about it.

Just move on in a positive way, without him, and I'm sure when you're ready, you'll find someone as well!



Take care hon, and good luck with everything!How do you deal with your child's mothers/fathers partner?
Just imagine how you want your ex to act when you start to date and he has to leave the baby with you and the new guy.
Get along with her because she is going to be alone some day with your son and you don't want her to take things out on him. Besides, his dad is going to have to deal with the fact that you will son have a new man in your life, now imagine how he will feel.



If you even hint at a problem with his new gf, he will think you're jealous and then that's when you'll get the ';BABY MOMMA DRAMA'; label. Do you want that?
Just be polite and friendly to her. Have neutral conversations with her (the weather, her job, you like her sweater, etc). I know it will be a tad weird, but give it a shot. And if she is polite and friendly to you in return, the three of you will be able to get along fine, which would be wonderful considering your son.
part of live when parenting separately, each of you have your own life now..
Well if at all possible, the best thing to do for the baby is to be friendly with this woman. She's going to be a part of his life and the more harmonious his environment is, the more happy and well-adjusted he will be.



My aunt married a man who had a child from a previous relationship and she ended up being great friends with his ex, which was great for the kid. It's possible, you just have to open yourself up to the idea.
I'm the 'girlfriend' in this scenario. My husband has a child with another woman and for months his ex wouldn't allow him to see his son with me present. When she did finally allow it she was funny with me, wouldn't ever let me meet her or discuss things important to his son with her, would diss me behind my back etc and I put it down to her being uncomfortable seeing her ex with another girl. When we got married it became more of an issue and because of this we see his son sporadically which isn't good on us or the child. We can't forge a bond with his son because we only see him when it's good for her and she keeps threatening to go to a solicitor.



Basically, everything she's doing to us, don't do to them. If you take the child away and then give him back, say they can have him and then they can't etc it will cause resentment and major problems between you and the baby's father. If there's still feelings for the father of the child there, that's something you will have to work out on your own but you need to know that the father of your baby won't allow anything bad or anyone bad around him, that he will protect your son and sometimes his new girlfriend is going to be a part of his life. It's going to be hard but as long as she knows her boundaries ie. not teaching your son to call her mum and as long as the baby's father knows his boundaries there shouldn't be a problem.



If it's at all possible, try to get on solid civil terms with your ex's new girlfriend. She'll feel more comfortable and so will you once you realise she's not a threat to your baby. I wouldn't advise this if you still have feelings for your ex but you should still try and build a rapport.