How do you deal with conflicts between your mother and husband when you have a baby?

I am 14 weeks pregnant, but am already having issues with what my husband and mother will do after birth. I love my mother dearly, but she has issues with being controlling and she's not really someone I can lean on emotionally, even though she's amazingly generous and loving otherwise. My husband has issues with her controlling nature. My mom is of retirement age and has planned to stop working in June so that she can help with the baby in July. She lives 2.5 hours from here, so she'd have to come basically live with us for a while. My husband wants her to come for one to two weeks when the baby is born and that's it other than random visits otherwise. I have a strong feeling she's going to want to be here more often. How do I juggle this? I want the help, but I don't want a showdown between my husband and mother.How do you deal with conflicts between your mother and husband when you have a baby?
With both of these people being a huge part of your life dont go jumping down one of the others throat just yet as things are going to change a lot in the next several months....your mom might just be so excited right now that she is overjoyed and saying that she is going to come for that long...when baby comes and when it gets closer im sure she will accomadate whats best for you...if your husband is going to take time off when the baby is born maybe have your mom come stay with you once he goes back to work so 1-he isnt around her all the time and 2 you are going to need the help and its great to have help lined up like that so you can get some rest too because after she leaves you may be on ur own....having a baby is going to wear you out so dont push your mom away...some people would just love thier parents to be involved...



Dont stress about it right now...once you start hitting ur 7-8 month mark then you might just have to say mom i really am going to need your help so can you come this date to this date so me and (hubby) can settle home as a family and have bonding time together while he is off work...



relax right now sweetie...this is a blessing and you are lucky to have ur mom that close(mine is really far away and i miss her dearly)How do you deal with conflicts between your mother and husband when you have a baby?
I was kind of in the same siutation. We live with my mother b/c her husband left her and my 2 sisters and she couldnt do it on her own, and it saved us $ to buy a house. He complained about everyone being overbearing and wanting to hold him all the time, and how stingy he would be. I just reminded him ultimetly he is the dad and noone can get any closer to our son then that.
You just need to be firm with your mother. Remember, this is your family. Yourself, your husband and your child. Grandparents come AFTER that. Keep your marriage happy. That's the most important thing!
This is a tough situation but the only thing I really can think of is a compromise. If you really want your mom to stay and help for a while let her come for about a month, tell your husband he needs to respect your decision as the mother because you're the one who will be going through the most, if things continue you should have your husband and your mom sit down and talk their problems out like ADULTS.
Oh girl! I have the exact same thing going on. So the answers to this one should be interesting. I don't have a clue on how to answer it, because I know that eventually my baby's father and my mom are gonna bump heads. It's inevitable. Maybe we can both learn something from people. Good luck on ur situation.
This really depends on what YOU want. Do you want your mom there longer than 2 weeks post-partum? Whatever your decision is, speak up! Perhaps your husband wants to be alone with you and your new baby for some terrific bonding... and not have to worry about grandma ruining the moments you only get once.... but the only way you'll know is by talking to him about it.
you really need to be stern with your mother. your marriage is more important at this point and you need to show her that. my mom and my boyfriend dont get along and im having a baby with him in april. i have been with him for 3 years and shes always tried ordering him and i around. you just have to put your foot down in a nice way and make her understand that 2 weeks is it.
Your husband sounds very very reasonable... this baby is yours and your husbands... mama had her turn and now once she has helped immediately after the birth... you getting back on your feet... it is time for her to go play cards with her friends and show baby pictures except for occasional visits... and probably preferably when hubby is not home... there does not need to be a showdown and mama must be told in a loving kind but very firm way that she is welcomed for the help and her loving her grandchild but then you married folks with the new baby need your own lives... with visits here and there...
I understand not wanting conflict but YOU need to take care of this asap. Tell your mom that you appreciate her coming to help and then let her know that you feel that you will only need her to stay a couple of weeks. Let her know that after that you and your husband want some alone time to bond as a new family. If she truly has your best interest at heart she will understand even if her feelings are hurt.
i am in the same exact situation.. you shouldnt let it stress you out because its not good for the baby, wait until the child is born. its YOUR child so dont let anyone else try to boss you with it.