Do you ever feel like your mother is trying to take over?

I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my first child and I'm really excited, because I will be able to start my own life. But my problem is that it seems like ever since I got pregnant my mother has been trying to control me and she has already tried making decisions like who will watch the baby and everything. I know that this is a big deal for her because this is her first grand child, but she has made comments like, my boyfriend (the baby's father) will not be allowed to be alone with the baby, and his parents wont be allowed to see the baby. She has also tried telling me how I should raise the child. She made a comment a few weeks ago that when the baby is born I wont be able to hold the baby until after she does and that she is going to feed it. I don't know about you but it feels like she is already trying to take my baby from me. I feel so over whelmed about it and I don't really know how to set up boundaries with her. I've had boundary issues with her in the past and I still do. But why does it feel like she is trying to take over. Am I just being hormonal or what? But When my mom says that the baby wont be allowed to see its dad or its other grandparents it makes me really upset, because its not her place to make those decisions. She so far hasn't let me pick out anything for the baby. I was going to get a bassinet, diaper genie, crib, changing table and everything else, but so far, she has gotten the bassinet, diaper genis, changing table, clothes diaper bags and everything. Its not that I'm not thankful, because I really truely am, I don't know what I would do with out her. It just feels like she is trying to take my place, and I don't know what to do?



Should I just suck it up and deal with it all? Talk to her? And how do I talk to her? I don't want to push her away but I feel so trapted and like I have no freedom to choose how I raise my child.....



I kind of feel like I'm being ungreatful, am I?Do you ever feel like your mother is trying to take over?
well hun wouldnt it be worse if she didnt care... she's doing this because she loves you



but tell her casually your fine and to stop worriying about you xxxxxxDo you ever feel like your mother is trying to take over?
You aren't being ungrateful. You are the babies mother. The more you do to put your mother in her place now, the better off you will be.



I have a very, very controlling mother and it has taken years to get her to the point where she recognizes me as a separate being. It will take even longer for her to actually respect me for being that.