Would would you do about your mother-inlaw PLEASE HELP ?

So my husbend and i have our own townhouse we have a 2year old and were pretty happy but my mother inlaw last august asked us if she could come an stay at our house for a few weeks because she was behind on her car payment and did not want it ti get repoed so we said yes and she would pay us the same as she was paying at her brother's house. but we only said a few weeks for several different reasons a big one though was because we dont have alot of room so she sleeps on our couch and stores her clothes all over the place but we didnt think a few weeks on the couch would be that big of a deal so that was in aug and its now almost may shes still here i cant stand it shes 49uears old with a fulltime job why do we have to support her me and myh husbend both agree that shes needs to go but he never tells her i think he does want her to go just as much as i want her to go but he dosent know how to tell his mom that she has to leave fyi shes healthy she goes out all the time comes backWould would you do about your mother-inlaw PLEASE HELP ?
She is 49 and in the prime of her life! She should be ashamed of herself ';landing'; on you guys like that! Tell your husband he needs to tell her to GO.



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you will politely ask her yourself.



This is your guys life, she has had hers, now it is your turn to have a life.



tell her to bug off.Would would you do about your mother-inlaw PLEASE HELP ?
Just tell her. Set a deadline and tell her she has until this date to move out.
i dun understand ur question.
Sit her down and be honest with her. Explain to her you didnt mind helping her out when she needed it but now its time she got back out on her own. Tell her your townhouse is not big enough for her to live there and that it puts stress on your family structure. No matter what way you do it she will be hurt but it needs to be said. You cannot have her take over your family life and she needs to get out and rebuild her own life. Try to show her that by positive words when you talk to her. Set a deadline for her and go with her to check out new places and encourage her.
Tell your husband on the weekend he has to tell her to go - or you will, if he doesn't then you do it. Be firm. she knows what she's doing, she's not some poor hopeless case she's a user and she knows it. Perhaps your husband secretly wants you to do it, so it doesn't come back on him. Who cares.......get her out!
your husband should tell her it is his mother he needs to grow a pair and stand up for his family which is you and your child. She needs to go if your family is to be sane and happy. I would tell my husband if he wants me there when he tells her fine you will stand by his side but it is his side of the family and he should be the one to her. If the shoe was on the other foot and it was your mother who would tell her probably you. If you tell her it also gives her ammo against you as being the mean DiL that throw me out in the cold
You and your husband have to agree on this plan. YOU need to sit down with her having coffee or something and ask her what her plans are for the future. If she tries to pull the ';mother'; attitude, lovingly and calmly express that you were under the impression that this stay was ';short term'; and if you were misinformed by hubby, apologize and say you will take the issue up with him. This hopefully will make her see and feel she needs to make a plan so not to interfere with her sons marriage. Good luck, this may be a nice wake up call for her.
The more subtle way to tell her is to find some really cute place for rent nearby and then one of you (best if this is your husband) can be all excited about it and mention to her that he (or you) saw this really cool place for rent over on the corner of X St. and Y Ave. If the place is in her price range and not big enough for all of you she should get the message.
Just be honest, Say ';look a few weeks was up a long time ago, what's going on? We would like to have our privacy, and our lives back not to mention our couch. If you need help finding a place I will help you if it means you moving out that much faster.'; See simple. Just have a little more courage to speak your mind. After all it is your life, isn't it?
You: Mom, we have enjoyed your extended stay. We feel that it is time for you to move out on your own.



Mom: Does my SON know about this?



You: Yes, he does. He is the one who has asked me to approach this subject with you. I have a calendar and we feel that in two weeks you should be able to find something and move out.



Mom: Hummmph

SCENE

Make sure you tell your husband exactly what you plan to say to her. He has to back you up or it won't work and you will have this visitor forever. Don't let her guilt you into anything, especially the 2 yr old and any relationship she has with him. I feel she is taking advantage of your spineless generosity. She also sounds like a flake. Who moves to hide her car? If she has a job then she should pay her bills as best she can.

Kiss her good bye and let her hit the bricks.

Peace
Sit her down and tell her you and your husband need to get back to your lives and she needs to get back to hers. be gentle and give her a deadline.