How to deal with possible male infertility?

If you was in a position where your husband may be unavailable to have biological children with you and you both have discussed what the alternatives may be and you talked about finding a sperm doner. Say you found a doner that you both are comfortable with and decide that if things have to come down to that this is what your going to do and you discuss this with your mother whom has never been in this position and they tell you they don't support you because 1. she doesn't feel we should be talking about this yet because we don't know for sure that my husband cant have kids until Sept. and 2. she doesn't want a grandchild that is made from the sperm of a gay man in fear that the child may turn out to be gay. what are your thoughts?How to deal with possible male infertility?
Do what feels right in your heart. No matter what this is your baby and if your husband is okay with all of this then go with it. Getting mothers involved can be a very dangerous thing for a relationship and really it was not her business to begin with although I applaude your openness and foward thinking. Don't let her get to you, she'll come around eventually if this is what you have to do to have a baby.How to deal with possible male infertility?
Well you cant help to think of other alternatives when you are thinking that you may not be able to have children. My husband has about the same problem your husband has. I think I would rather adopt tho instead of a donor sperm. There are so many children out there that need good homes.

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when i was married for about 2 years we found out that my husband might be infertility he offered me a divorce because he could not give me children. i told him not being stupid i married him because i loved him not his sperm. we adopted a beautiful little girl who is now 36 years old. never ever a moment regret. a true mother or father is the person who is always there and takes care of you no matter what you do.
1. Get your husband tested, and see the results than. Even if they say NO he cant, there could be a miracle.

2. Its not your mothers choice its yours and your husbands choice to decide either to get a sperm donor or maybe look into adopting a baby.

3. Does does your mother know the spern donor would be a gay male? And if the sperm donor was gay, that does not mean the child would turn out gay.



I wish the best to you and your husband %26amp; tell your mother if she doesnt support you than she isnt a mother at all. Mothers will always support their children NO MATTER WHAT.... Good Luck and I hope your husband is fertile for both your sakes... take care and I hope I shed some light on the subject (=
by waiting until sept i think that u guys have done some tests n r waiting for results, right???

i think that if u r gonna have some answers bout ur husbands infertility by sept then u should wait.... see if things work out for him then u wont need a donor.....

then after all that if u do need a donor then i agree with ur mom bout getting a straight donor instead of a gay one...... cuz after all his chromosomes r gonna be in ur baby...... it'll be his characteristics in the baby....... n there r chances of the baby being gay......
Personally, I think you should have not involved your mother in your potential plans for a sperm donor. Do what you want and mind your own business. Don't share.



Believe it or not, many grandmothers do not accept their grandchildren, even if they are biologically descended. Just plan to cut your mother out of the child's life if she is so condescending.



You might also consider asking, once you have determined there is no other option, other male relatives of your husband about considering donating sperm. Since you are married, issues about legal parenthood are already resolved.
1. Wait until you know for certain.

2. It is not your mother's choice, it is you adn your husbands

3. I know people that are gay that neither parent were. That will not make the child gay.