How do you deal with your step-kids mom?

She is always causing some sort of problem and general doesn't have my step-daughters best interest at heart. She sends her over in clothing that is too small or tight all the time. If we try to say anything she just says oh I didn't know or she starts arguing about it. I personally never say anything to her or discuss the problem with her at all. For instance tonight when we took her home he told her he got her new shoes because the one's she sent her in were too small. Her toes were all squished and she was whining because her feet hurt (she is only 16 months but she was whining and when we took the shoes off she stopped put them back on and she started again took them off and she stopped plus you could tell they were too small). Her mothers only response was I have three pairs just like them. If she had three pairs just like that then why would she send her in the one's that didn't fit? Then he said her coat is too small too. She said I just bought that coat and paid a lot of money for it. It's fine. So I guess if you pay a lot for it then it automatically fits?? Sure the coat is nice. But it's a 12-18 months. Most of her clothing is 18-24 months. There is no way this coat is going to last all winter you can barely get it zipped now. I mean between her belly and the coat you can't even fit your hand in. You even have to push her tummy in to zip it up. Our son is 6 months younger and he is wearing an 18 months coat. She has also sent her in shorts that didn't fit I mean obviously didn't fit they wouldn't zip or button. She doesn't do what she is suppose to for court, she calls and yells on the phone, writes bad things about us and our BABY on the internet. I mean you have to be really low to talk bad about a baby. We have court next week and she was suppose to go see the GAL this was her second chance and she still hasn't done it! We just don't know what to do!! Any suggestions has anyone dealt with this before that can help? Did you eventually get custody? What will they do since the judge told her this is her last shot to see the GAL? Will they just do whatever he asked for? She will be so mad! Then what?How do you deal with your step-kids mom?
I just sleep with her as much as I can...we get along fineHow do you deal with your step-kids mom?
wat a sucky mom. tell her straight up wat you think over the phone...i mean wat can she do? slap you?
I was not technically a step Mom but I guess a step girlfriend. I had been with the children's father for two years. We were not living together and I would never stay overnight when he had the kids but they had a mother that was a real piece of work. The kids were never bathed, never had decent clothes, never had books or appropriate shoes, etc. I just ended up spending lots of money on them getting them a decent wardrobe, shoes, toys, books, furniture and on and on. However the situation between myself and their mother was tense and I guess my point is it doesn't matter what you do, unless she's a crackhead prostitute they are never going to take them away from her. She will make your life hell for the rest of it. Good luck
If your kids are 6 months apart, then you wwhere with him when she was pregnant. Babies are alwways outgrowing things.Every 2 to 3 months they are in a new size and not all baby clothing is sized the same. If she had something that didn't fit why didn't you say so at the mother's house when you picked up the child. Why did you wait to get all the way home before you said anything. What is the GAL anyway that she has to see for the courts. Honestely, looking at your children's ages, it looks like a b***h fit to me.
as far as the court stuff goes i guess only time will tell. i would document everything tho and take pictures of the things that you feel are wrong and/or abusive. one thing you can do is buy her the things she needs and keep it at your house (shoes, clothes, coats). wash the clothes she came in and send her home in them. it is really unfair that the child has to go thru this and hopefully it can be straightened out thru the courts.