What would you do if you and your mom were best friends and?

you are pregnant. You want to be able to leave your baby at your mothers house every once in a while once you have the baby since this is the first grandbaby BUT your dad is a alcoholic off and on but is in denial and you are afraid for him to be drunk around the baby? How do you deal with this sutuation?What would you do if you and your mom were best friends and?
Maybe your mom could spend time with the baby at your house, good luckWhat would you do if you and your mom were best friends and?
If you were going to confront your dad, you shouldn't do it when he's drunk... dumbest thing I have ever heard!! Do it when he's sober and can comprehend the conversation. DUH
have your mom stay at your house with the baby and leave your dad at their house confrontation is also a good way
Please dont confront him while he is drunk, generally people get defensive and argue when they are drunk, and he wont listen. Talk to him when he is sober, and say to him that you are a bit scared to leave the baby with him unless you can make a compromise, dont tell him outright to quit, tell him that if you go round there and he has had a drink then you will turn and go home, but give notice that you are coming. That way its his choice, if he wants to see his grandchild he will be sober for the meeting.
i agree with your husband. that's not good. he could hurt the baby if he's drunk. if you have a good relationship with your mother that's great, invite her over your house as much as you can. but your dad doesn't sound trustworthy.
I would talk to your dad -not while he is drunk- don't threaten him-- tell him you love him and you want him to be close to his grandchild but you can't accept his drinking problem. Ask him to get in to a program and offer to go with him sometimes. Also, talk to your mother. Tell her how you feel and maybe she can encourage him and go with him too. If you threaten someone chances are they aren't going to listen and it will make the situation worse. The important thing is to realize that your dad needs help. If he refuses, then have your mother watch the baby at your home. Good luck!
Well do you think that he would ever harm the baby. Did he ever do anything to you when he was drinking. I ask this because my father-in-law is what is called a functioning alchoholic. My sister-in-law is one as well. I leave my children with my in-laws frequently (they live in Florida and I do not) because I know that he never drives drunk, he never gets mean, you can't even tell he has been drinking unless you see him, he handles it that well. I was concerned as well, until my husband told me all this and I spent time with them. Now if your father is not like this, if he is hurtful or would drink in front of the child, then I think you need to choose the right time, to sit down quietly with your father. Don't do it after a long hard day at work, or at a time when he would usually be drinking. Ask your mom to leave before hand and sit down with him on a Sunday morning for example. Be very kind, but very up front and have a long long talk with him. Talk him in to going to AA, just remember this will be a long hard uphill battle with probably lots of bumps in the road. Until he is better and you feel secure, ask your mom to keep the baby at your place. Good luck
Talk to him when he's sober so he can comprehend what you are saying...but I would trust that your mother wouldn't let any harm come to your baby. You could also ask your mom to babysit at your house and your dad wouldn't be near your baby.