How would you deal with your life if it were like this?

My daughter is 13, she stole my moms car the other night.

My son is 26 and he stole $100.00 from me so I took his truck and sold it to a friend to repay the money he owed.

My mother is 76 years old, and has custody of my younger two kids, one which is my 13 yr. old daughter. who I have now been given full discipinary authority over finally.

My one son is a great kid, and needs to find a job.

I am out of work, birthdays are around the corner, along with one on christmas.

My boyfriend is mad at me for having to go and take care of things for thanksgiving instead of staying with him the night. and he doesn't celebrate thanksgiving.

My 26 yr old's ex girlfriend just got out of jail and my mother is letting her stay here now and I don't like her. She lost my grand daughters to the state here just recently and seems to think that she will get them back. after she had already lost her first 3 kids to the state years prior.

I am so stressed out, I just want to run a way.How would you deal with your life if it were like this?
It looks like a lot of the pressure is over your kids. Which almost all parents have and i don't personally have any children but my mother comes up to me and tells me the same thing ';I'm tired and sad. I cry at night a lot.';



It's hard being a mom and having so much responsibility put upon your shoulders all the time, but that's one of the things you have to be prepared for is dealing with the obstacles that you come across. The biggest piece of advice i can give you, is don't give up. I know sometimes it feels like it's too hard to handle... but if you give up it's just going to make your situation a whole lot worse.



You seem to be a workaholic. Even though you don't have a job, you do. You seem to be the type that is always running around. So some things you might want to take into consideration is that even though you have so many things to take care of, it doesn't mean you shouldn't take care of one of the most important things of all... yourself.



So i think what needs to happen is you need to make up a schedule. Set up a time in the morning or at night where you can just hop in your bath and relax. Or watch a movie, read a book, take a walk, take a nap, call up a relative/friend/boyfriend, write in a journal. Call it YOUR time. You should set up times during the day where you can just sit down and take a breather and set up times for your boyfriend... so he won't complain about quality time. Then set up the times to go grocery shopping, christmas shopping, etc. All that.... having a neat agenda will keep you organized and really take a lot of stress off your shoulders.



You see, when you wake up and all you think about is what you have to do you tend to get worried and stress about what to do first. Then you spend too much time here and there and suddenly it's 9:00. Keeping specific dates and times set will help you out a lot.How would you deal with your life if it were like this?
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I would take one thing at a time...I would remember the Serenity Prayer...The serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. I would first focus on finding a job that would be able to afford me with a place of my own...I would get out and take at least one night class so that I could improve on my circle of friends. Choose people whose life you would like to model....go to church and meet some more decent friends and work my tail off to get away from the dismal people that are around you now. It is never too late to start over....start now. Set an example for your children.
Your kids are following the example you set for them.Your mom is too much of a tender hearted grandparent to dole out the discipline they needed.

First YOU, get rid of the B/F get a place of your own, YOU need to set a better example for your daughter or else she will be shacking before she is 16, and will throw what you're doing now in your face.

Your 26 yr old son :

Take him to the nearest homeless shelter and tell him';this is YOUR NEW home until you get on your feet, or you may learn to like it here,your choice son'; then LEAVE him there and dont look back.He is an adult and it is time for him to start acting like one.Next time he steals form any of you, send his butt to jail, do not pass go do NOT collect 200$!

Your daughter, 2 sets of clothes, no cell phone,no computer,no phone no lights no motor car not a single luxury!

You take an active part in her education and spend time with her.Take her bowling,shopping.Do NOT allow her private internet access, or phone use, or she will be sneaking doing things behind her back.As far as stealing the car, I'd wear her tail out for that and make her do whatever the courts said.

Also when you get a place of your own, you wont have to worry about ANYONE but your daughter.
Seek Professional help. Get away from negative people.Get what you need You have a computer use it find out what you can and should do legally. Jobs are everywhere on the Internet.Kids will have to learn for themselves after a certain age.Career counseling is a good start.Move out as soon as possible.
Your boyfriend is a self-serving spoiled brat. Cut him loose at the earliest opportunity.



Your son needs to get out from under your/your mother's roof, once and for all... and manage his own life, warts and all. If he really wants to spend his time in the company of this messed-up jailbird, he needs to understand that he can get hauled-in for associating with her... if she takes up dealing drugs or whatever else she went to jail for. He doesn't need to be breeding with this one any more! He is 26. Time to grow up.



Your mother is an enabler... she is taking in all of these people, supporting them, and not bothering to discipline the kids... so they are running rampant and using her for a doormat. It is a huge disservice to the kids. She is a half-@ss zookeeper. The jailbird girlfriend needs to be put out on her kiester... your mom needs to set a move-out date and get ready to forcibly eject her.

Talk to her, get her on the same page. Make a plan to get the son out of there as soon as he is employed... as in setting a firm move-out date for him.



You need to get your daughter under control NOW. If it means teaching her with a belt across the fanny, then that is what it takes. As her parent, you are responsible and liable for her actions. She needs to be going to school, doing her chores and staying out of trouble... period.



FORGET about birthdays and christmas... you can always get them a little token something. For the most part, all of them need to get a grip and behave. Prioritize. You need what little money you have to get around to interviews.



You need a job... start putting in applications everywhere right now... even a retail job is something coming in. You can still look for more professional work while working that job.



You have been absentee for way too long. You need to step-up and take responsibility and control. The ultimate power is the mama. Your new mantra is, “If the mama ain’t happy, then NOBODY is happy.” Get mad and start smacking things into shape.