How do you deal with your children going for visits with your ex?

I have been split with my ex for about a month now. We have a 2 year old and a 3 week old. Our 2 yr old is alternating homes (stays with each parent for a week at a time) and we switch him off via daycare. Our 3 week old is too young to go overnight with him b/c i am breast feeding. So i usually go to grandmas (his mother) house to let them visit the baby. But i get so pissed when i see my ex and i cant stand to look at him or talk to him, i wanna punch him. (kicked me out a week before giving birth to new baby). I dont want to go there, because he lives across the road (in what used to be our home), but grandma always asks me to bring the baby over. So how do you deal with your ex when it comes to children. any advice for me?How do you deal with your children going for visits with your ex?
Your only concern is the children's welfare; keep it civil and do not cause any scenes in front of the children; and as much as you want to never say things about your Ex where the children are. Can grandma go to your place sometimes? Explain to her that it is hard for you to deal with always going there; and being so close to the home you lived in.

Good luck.How do you deal with your children going for visits with your ex?
unfortunately it isn't about you anymore. you have to do what is best and right by those kids, and regardless of what happened with you two, they have a right to know their dad. put you feelings aside, as that is what we are required to do as parents.
Keep your chin up. Act like a lady. Do what's best for the children. If you can get along, try for their sake. My kids love their dad and since your are very young and it doesn't seem like you will be moving far away, do the best you can to keep it civil.
well if its illegal to keep it from them then i wouldnt bother with anything else
You need to put aside your anger at your ex for the sake of the kids. You don't have to like him or want to be around him, but your kids do.
So you are angry...You have to make a hard choice.Stay angry or let it go. Staying angry hurts you , not him. Staying angry means you are giving your power to him. Make a choice.
Quit thinking of yourself and do what's best for the kids.Try not to have any more kids okay?
I'm sorry you're having a hard time. You know, you haven't been away from your ex for very long yet, and i'm sure this is still an emotional time and there are a lot of hard feelings. We do spend time grieving after a break-up, and it's normal to feel angry. You are not abnormal.



I would just do the right thing... let dad see his kids. If grandma wants to see the kids often, and you get along, you might call her once in a while and invite her over to your house, if it's a hassle taking the child to hers.



You asked how you deal with the ex... when i was divorced, it was difficult, just like you explained. But i came to realize that i was better off, and that i had a lot to look forward to in my life. So, i was as pleasant as i could be with my ex and worked hard to move on.



sending all best wishes.
oh wow kicked you out while pregnant with his child? you know i would fight this visitation thing, you and his child could have died he dint care then, he showed no regard for either of you, he is an unfit sob
develop a thick hide. tough but true.



i cant stand the sight of my kids mother and the things she lies to them about are phenomenal.



i keep a little money aside for the occasional retail therapy.. i have good friends who understand. I go out from time to time.



i parent my kids everyday. she pays maintenance to me.



i give my kids rules and love



im sure she feels the same



i cant control her only what i do or say to her.



as the kids get older different issues will come up. get your parenting plan in order if needed seek a lawyers point of view.



grandparents are entitled to access too. kids love nana and poppy.. so be scarce in that house while he is there.



then move into a space of mind where the flood of anger bitterness and rekection can be sorted thru properly so you can be happy with your life. it w ill come again. happiness... it just takes time and some effort to look for positives



email?
just be a good mother and let the baby daddy see them bc if you dont then you will reget it and also no matter what he did wrong to you, you should never talk bad about him in front of your kids. in the long run it will come back to bite you in the ___
I had a rough road for years with visitation with the children visiting the ex..he didn't do what was court ordered..some many times had to go back to court..but now they are older and don't bother with him..
I couldn't do what you do. I have to take my son over to my parents house and then my ex comes there and picks him up and takes him for 3 days..........3 days of which I'm usually not very sober...I'm very distraut when my ex takes my son as he has only seen him about 3 or 4 times a year since he's been born and never spent more than 3 days with him at a time. My ex now has this new mouthy wife who persuaded him to take me to court for custody and things are even worse between us.