How do you deal with your judgemental, angry parents when you stay with them?

I have been forced to move back home briefly. I had to give up my job due to a back injury and I am briefly staying at my parents house until I can find a different line of work. My parents are extremely discouraged about life, and insist on yelling and swearing and being nasty even though there is nothing wrong. I cook and clean for them, but no amount of work would change the fact that they absolutely insist on complaining. My mother comes in the room every morning while I am still sleeping, and wakes me up so she can complain and whine, and it is hard for me to have a good day after that. I am more than willing to talk and help them work things out, but they do not present any sort of a logical argument. They are stuck in the same demented thought patterns and they are heading through a downward spiral.



I just want to be in a calm relaxed state, but my mother just won't leave me alone. I really want to find a job, and should be out within a month, what do I do until then??How do you deal with your judgemental, angry parents when you stay with them?
Be as unimposing as you can possibly be. I don't know how severe your back injury was, but if you can possible spend time elsewhere during the day, that would really help. Make sure you are contributing in some way. Be firm, though, in telling your parents that all this complaining does no good. You may have to remind them 25 times a day, but do this with a very calm and collected tone of voice. Firm and calm. My own mother was a constant complainer and negative all of the time. She was the queen bee who always had to stir up the hive in the family. I grew up with a tremendous amount of negativity from her. When I was younger, for some reason, I just kept quiet about it and took all that she could dish out. As it turned out, I was her caregiver later in life. She still complained about every little thing. I finally got up the nerve and began to tell her that this would not be tolerated anymore, ';If you don't have something good to say, then keep it to yourself! I don't have that in my home, with my children and husband.'; She did begin to hold her tongue. You can still love and be loved by people who are negative. The trick is not to become a complainer like them! Complaining simply becomes a habit that can be broken like many bad habits. Good luck to you and get out of their house soon!How do you deal with your judgemental, angry parents when you stay with them?
Just ignore them like there not even there
If you live under their roof, you can't complain. If you are sleeping in the morning, that means you aren't seriously looking for work. Get a job and get out.
Just ignore them.You do what you can therefor there is no need for youto feel guilty about anything.
STAY FOCUSED ON WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND GOING TO ACHIEVE AFTER THIS PERIOD OF TIME IS OVER. THAT'S TOO BAD ABOUT YOUR PARENTS SOME PEOPLE AREN'T HAPPY UNLESS THEY'RE UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING. READ A BOOK OR DO SOMETHING YOU ALWAYS WISHED YOU HAD THE TIME TO DO BEFORE BUT DIDN'T. GOOD LUCK.
Wow! My immediate advice is to PRAY! There is nothing more discouraging than to be in the mist of negativity when you need to surround yourself with positive bright light. But think about it this way. It's only temporary. This is a test that you must endure. And I don't think you will fail. Why? Because you recognize what you are going through for what it is rather than participating in it. Helping is good but if you feel it isn't helping, I can see how that can be frustrating. Making sense out of non-sense is craziness! Remain joyful in your situation because when you and if you give in, that will make things worse. Perhaps you can listen to some upbeat music. Headphones would probably work best. Also, maybe hang out with friends until it's time to turn in. Read an uplifting book. This won't keep them at bay but it will build up your ';positive'; defenses to ward off the ';evil';. Keep your head up and God Bless you!
Find a job, move out and limit visits.
Recognize that their stuff is theirs, and you can't change it. Tell her you love her, be respectful, get out ASAP.

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