Is there really a way to deal with your mates baggage?

She's a drug addict

She's paranoid

She's threatened by me because I'm a better person and a better mother to even her own child than her

She's hot/cold as often as someone changes their clothes

Anger issues

violence issues

insecure

moves every few months

fraudulently obtains welfare

not afraid at all of breaking the law...hasnt really gotten caught yet



It's hideous isnt it? To make matters worse she threatens my family on a regular basis. She's vendictive...she cannot even handle having a conversation unless she's in a depressive mode....then she cries on my shoulder. sick.



Any good ideas on how to handle her? I'm not looking for aggressive, violent ways. I'm half her size plus I dont want trouble...just want to somehow stifle her violent behavior and have her leave us alone.



oh and my guy and her have to at least talk since they have a mutual child.Is there really a way to deal with your mates baggage?
It would be in your best interest to be as helpful as possible to the mother of your boyfriends kid. If you truly think you are a better person than she is ,the best thing to do this is to help her get the care she needs.



That child will appreciate that much more than anything else you can provide. It might be that she is beyond help, but you should make the best possible effort and take it from there. I think you will soon begin to realize that there are always two sides to a story and perhaps you will also realize that what appears to be one thing is usually a distortion of someone else's opinion of that person.



Good Luck!Is there really a way to deal with your mates baggage?
WTF?
You should really break up. It seems like you guys aren't right for each other. But, if you want to have to get her to talk to you, and not as you say. Let her know exactly how you feel, and maybe she will change or at least try to change, if she doesn't respect this, then you definitely need to stop making her a priority if you are just an option.
i know what you are going through for i am too. have been for 15 years but don't let her get too you cause that is what she wants sounds too me she is jealous of you. try talking too her good luck
Your guy should be dealing with his x.

You can't stop her from seeing her child but you can make her deal your guy instead. He needs to man up and deal with his psycho wife. You should insist he does. He knows how, he is the one that was with her before and I am sure her behavior is nothing new. Forget about what she does with welfare and other things that irritate you. Just have Hubby deal with it. Just say just a minute, and hand the phone to him.
Have your guy only talk to her when its about the children other than that theres no need to speak or even be friends, being civil is enough, dont invite stress and drama into your life. Kill her with kindness say hi, hello, good morning good afternoon, keep it only into common courtisies. My hubbies wife is a bad mother but they have two children from their marriage, she doesnt like me and when she does speak its phoney I think shes bipolar, anyway we only speak of the children, their needs etc Child Protective services has been called on her, she tried to take it out on us, I answered her how sad for the children, i never show any feeling or concern towards her, just the children neither does my hubby when she has all these diff boyfriends adn break ups we either ignore her or make a very cold statment like above mentioned. She got the picture, when you keep doing it and are consistent she'll get the picture
Go to court to get custody.
YOU AND YOUR MATE ARE A PIECE OF WORK TOO! DOES YOUR MATE HAVE CUSTODY OF THE CHILD? IF NOT, HE SHOULD GET THE CHILD ASAP! With that said, if he does have the child, there is no reason to 'ever' deal with her. I would even get a restraining order against her, due to the fact that she is a drug abuser and disruptive to the mental welfare of her child. So, let her nag and moan. Move, get lost so that she can moan alone. DIVORCE YOURSELVES FROM HER EXISTENCE. She can't bother you if she does not know where you are.



Immediately, do not answer her calls or the door. Tell your family not to talk to her at all. Call the police on the restraining order EVERY TIME SHE SHOWS UP!