How do i deal with my mother??? PLEASE HELP?

its like she is purposely trying to make sure that I can not be self sufficient i think because she is lonely and wants me to move back in with her. You see Im 26yrs old I have live out of the house for 6yrs now but when i was 18 my dad left her and since my brother was already married and out of the house I gave up my full ride out of state college scholarship to stay with her I lived there for 3 yrs every day dealing with the put downs and her basically taking everything out on me. Well it came to a point where i decided that for my own sanity i needed to move out so i did to a place just a few blocks from her well she drove by (would never stop) probably a dozen times a day and we would fight about stupid stuff like ';i drove by at 9 and the kitchen light was on but then at 9;40 it was off and the bedroom light was on......who are you with who are you having sex with'; I mean seriously thats crazy!!!!! she even once slipped in a fight and said that i was ';cheating'; on her. so anyway i moved to another town I was driving a gas hog and needing to commute for work so I bought a little 500 dollar car and asked my brother to fix it up, he did but left it at her house for me to go pick up now every time i decide I wanna get it we get into a huge argument she thinks ';its not safe cause its little'; and it would be one thing if she was honestly worried about my safety but I feel like she is just trying to make surei dont catch up on money and i have to move back in with her. mostly because of her stupid comments like, i could say ';I was to tired to make dinner last night'; and she will say ';well your the one who moved out if you lived here you wouldnt have to make dinner'; its like every sentence that comes out of my mouth she turns back into ';well if you lived here......'; I just cant handle it. She hates each and every guy i have dated since my dad left and refuses to speak to me if i continue to date ';that boy'; who ever it may be, its clear that she is bitter about men but does that mean i have to give up the idea of being in love? Its really starting to eat at me. I have talked to her she refuses counceling cause ';your just a kid you have no right to tell me that im wrong about anything Im your mother and you do what I say'; I mean how does that even connect to anything. I cant just cut her off cause with out me she literally has no one since her attitude has run off all her friends How do i deal with my mother??? PLEASE HELP?
I think you need to let you mother know that you ARE an adult; you are after all 26 years old. You have to tell her exactly how you feel, let her know that you will always be there for her, but you need to live your own life. I think you should go and pick up your commuter car from her house, it is your car and you paid for it. If she tries picking a fight while your there just take off with the car (have one of your friends or co-workers drop you off) and go home. You can 'make up' on another occasion. Also about the boyfriend thing, I think you shouldn't worry so much about what your mother thinks. You are the one who knows how your significant other really is, and if it's true love and you plan to get married one day. She is just going to have to deal with it, like it or not.



I feel sorry for you... Perhaps you should try to get your mother into a hobby, of introduce her to some ladies. Maybe then she will be too occupied and will lay off of you.



I hope my advice helps

How do i deal with my mother??? PLEASE HELP?
Well i think you need to talk to her about it. and if she is really lonely maybe getting her in a home?
You must live your life and you need to tell her that when she starts her thing you are walking out and then do it if this don't work go farther away and don't feel bad for her as your own mental health is most important in your young life.
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its like she is purposely trying to make sure that I can not be self sufficient i think because she is lonely and wants me to move back in with her. You see Im 26yrs old I have live out of the house for 6yrs now but when i was 18 my dad left her and since my brother was already married and out of the house I gave up my full ride out of state college scholarship to stay with her I lived there for 3 yrs every day dealing with the put downs and her basically taking everything out on me. Well it came to a point where i decided that for my own sanity i needed to move out so i did to a place just a few blocks from her well she drove by (would never stop) probably a dozen times a day and we would fight about stupid stuff like ';i drove by at 9 and the kitchen light was on but then at 9;40 it was off and the bedroom light was on......who are you with who are you having sex with'; I mean seriously thats crazy!!!!! she even once slipped in a fight and said that i was ';cheating'; on her. so anyway i moved to another town I was driving a gas hog and needing to commute for work so I bought a little 500 dollar car and asked my brother to fix it up, he did but left it at her house for me to go pick up now every time i decide I wanna get it we get into a huge argument she thinks ';its not safe cause its little'; and it would be one thing if she was honestly worried about my safety but I feel like she is just trying to make surei dont catch up on money and i have to move back in with her. mostly because of her stupid comments like, i could say ';I was to tired to make dinner last night'; and she will say ';well your the one who moved out if you lived here you wouldnt have to make dinner'; its like every sentence that comes out of my mouth she turns back into ';well if you lived here......'; I just cant handle it. She hates each and every guy i have dated since my dad left and refuses to speak to me if i continue to date ';that boy'; who ever it may be, its clear that she is bitter about men but does that mean i have to give up the idea of being in love? Its really starting to eat at me. I have talked to her she refuses counceling cause ';your just a kid you have no right to tell me that im wrong about anything Im your mother and you do what I say'; I mean how does that even connect to anything. I cant just cut her off cause with out me she literally has no one since her attitude has run off all her friends