How do you ';deal'; with your IN LAWS?

My fiance's mother has not spoken to us in over 3 months (since Christmas)..we have tried to contact her by phone and by texts and have gotten no response from her up until last week. She sends me a message last week that says she wasn't ignoring us that she was going through a rough time and that she misses us. We didn't respond back. Last night she sends ME (not my fiance) a message saying ';Easter at Dads on Saturday. Thanks for your support.'; My fiance texts his mother back saying we wouldn't be there because we haven't heard from her in over 3 months and we're not running to her (they live 2 hours away) and that we didn't know what was going on with her to ';support'; her since noone has talked to us. Well..his sister starts texting me saying that it's bullshit what we are accusing her mom of and that I should watch it and that I'm the reason my fiance don't go to holidays (which is funny seeings how we've NEVER missed a holiday there) and that I got my wish and they were fighting (WTF?!) I told his mother AND sister that I wasn't getting in the middle of things because I really didn't care about the situation. I'm just sooooo fed up with his mother and two sisters. I'm NOT going to Easter and taking our son to be around people that are childish like that. IF I do go around them again what should I say or do? I'm tired of getting walked on and absolutely WILL NOT tolerate any more of their drama. How do you deal with your CRAZY in-laws?How do you ';deal'; with your IN LAWS?
oh good god. I feel your pain. i have crazy in-laws too. remind them that their son/brother is a grown man and can make decisions on his own. i know you said you've never missed holiday, but even if you had, they can't put all the blame on you. i'm sure you didn't hold a gun to his head about it. You are absolutely right for not wanting to bring your baby there. they are too negative and your child doesn't need/deserve to be subjected to their immature temper tantrums. they are probably jealous that your fiance has a life and family of his own now and resent you fo it. i know that's how it is in my case. you need to continue what you're doing. put your kid first and keep him away from the over dramatic in-laws until they are ready to behave like mature adults and show you the respect you deserve. good luck!How do you ';deal'; with your IN LAWS?
You are a group of evil women that would give someone a thumbs down for being kind. Only re-enforces my beliefs about who is really to blame.

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I'll get right to the point..............IGNORE THEM.......AVOID THEM......PRETEND THEY DON'T EXIST...works just fine for me!!!
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I think your fiance and yourself should have a small meeting once and for all and tell them exactly what you feel, and your fiance should be on your side and he should tell them to back off.



Also include that if they want you around they should 1st) respect you 2nd) they should inform you of what is going on in their life and not just leave you not knowing what is going on until the holidays.
just remember its their loss i have an awful mother in law and the best thing i ever did was cut her out of mine and the childrens lives because she caused more harm than good !!!
Ignoring them is best its more annoying as they love retaliation from you, i had it with my inlaws and now they are fine so it does work.
omg lol sounds like my husbands family! Maybe were related lol.

My husbands mother also started drama over not going their last Christmas because i was pregnant and was advised not to fly on a plane for the baby's sake. She expected him to leave me for 2 weeks(including the actually christmas holiday) just to spend time with all of them, and she pitched a fit when he refused too.

They also blamed me for this, and said i changed him so much, and so on and so forth.

Finally their was one huge blowout, where they ended up calling me names, adn that was it.

My husband and i dropped them from our lives because they were putting way to much stress on our marriage.

Your fiance might just need to let go if their going to continue to disrespect you like this. Its crazy, your a grown women and you dont need it.

Dont let those toxic people have anything to do with your family, nothing good will come of it!
So sorry. Sounds so much like my own story. It's his family and you need to ignore it and not be involved at all. Ignore texts and calls that are to you. Make him respond. If they call and you answer just hand it right to your husband. I don't think wives should have to deal with drama from in-laws when they already have the daily stresses of raising a family.
Maybe I have a bigger heart than most people or are more considerate of my mother-in-law. But the very first thing I would do is find out what was wrong. What was the rough time she was going through. I would of never let 3 months go by with no contact. My husband and myself would of jumped in the car to go find out first hand.



Second, I would never, ever use my child as a pawn in some kind of control game to get back at my in-laws.



Third, I do not think your sister-in-law handled things correctly. If what you are saying is the whole truth. But she was probably just supporting her mother.



Lastly, you should care. That is your husband's mother and family and the Grandmother of your child.