How do you deal with your husband that can't stand up for himself?

My husband, he can talk crap to me when we argue, he can take things out on me, like frustrations, that he has for other people that have hurt him, like his mother and his ex-wife, but when the time comes for him to voice his opinion to these people, he clams up. His mother has disrespected me for some five years now. Just plan out nasty towards me. He's been embroiled in a nasty custody battle with his ex for five years also, but has finally gained custody of the child. Basically, his mother joined forces behind his back and mine, with his ex. All this slowly came out. He is a big ball of anger. I want to help him, but don't know how to help him release some of his tension. Does anyone have any suggestions??How do you deal with your husband that can't stand up for himself?
It sounds like he may have issues confronting other people that he is mad at, so unfortunately he takes it out on you... We always hurt the ones we love... right? So try this: Invite the 2 women over, make sure your husband is home, get them all in the same room, and have everyone to sit down. YOU bring out all of these issues that he has with these women, and he may get mad enough at them to start speaking up for his self. All you would be doing, is getting the ball rolling, so to speak, and this may be the thing tohelp him break his confrontational unease.How do you deal with your husband that can't stand up for himself?
be there and be understanding and help him stand up to them don't force it just help him
theres nothing u can really do hes probobly been like that his whole life and if you tell him wat his problem is straight up he would feel offended
he needs to talk to someone, like a counselor. might also help him to stop taking things out on you. he needs to let the anger go. what good is it doing anyone? gonna give him heart disease or cancer.
Tell your husband that if he yells at you for something they did one more time, that you are leaving and that if he doesn't tell his mom and ex to back off and cut off his mom for awhile, then you will leave because you can't stand him not being able to be a man and stand up to the people that hurt him.
yes tell him you are his family now and if you don't come first then maybe you should not be together, i had this problem , and after all of our fights over his family basically doing the same thing it boiled down to a them of me situation(which i hated) we have kids together and i had to make him realize we are a family now, the bible tells you that's why a man leaves his house to start his own family. loving your family and knowing when to take control are two different things. you husband needs to set limitations for you mother in law if she cant respect it eliminate her from your life.. good luck
Just stand by him. That is the best help you can do. You cannot fight his battle. It is all up to him. It don't matter who has joined forces as long as you both stick it out through all of this TOGETHER.