Does anyone have a mother that is mentally ill?

My grandma was diagnosed with Bi-polar and I think my mom may be Bi-polar too. She is becoming just as unstable and unkind as my grandma. My mom has hurt me too many times in my life and every time I try to have a positive relationship with my mom, it screws up. My mom was feeling sad today and tried to drag me into her misery. I was disrespected and left just confused and hurt. How do you deal with a mother who is so unstable and mentally ill? Just feeling unloved by your mother makes me feel just as unstable. Anyone else have this problem?Does anyone have a mother that is mentally ill?
I feel you sooooooooooooo much!!! All my life my mom has been sick. No one has diagnosed her, but as I got older I researched myself. Every where from taking diagnostic test's online, to my sister's psych books. I know for a fact my mom has multiple personalities. She's hurt my sister and I all our whole life. Called us bad names, to the point where I grew up with self esteem issues. She also lied and told me she was raped by whatever race I was dating at the time, because she didn't want me to date them. Crazy sounding I know. She also now that I'm married, live 2000 miles away, don't talk to her anymore, she is convinced my husbands mom turned me against her. The only reason we stopped talking was, because I stopped calling her. She never once picked up the phone to tell me she was sorry when I miscarried. She never once so much has sent me a card when I got married. We got married at a court house, so no one was invited. It wasn't because I didn't invite her. When I was little and still to this day she thinks god and the devil talk to her. I lost a lot of friends growing up because of her. She talks to animals and believes she's wiccan. I can go on forever. I could write a book worth of stories. It was bad enough she was sick my whole life she also hit us as kids. My dad did a lot of damage to, physical abuse. He's not sick though. I can go on forever. . At 21 I finally was offered to move 2000 miles away from it all, when my now husband saw how I was still being treated. I've seen a therapist for the past 2 years, and that helps sooooooooo much!! I've elimated her out of my life, it's sad because she's my mom. I never had a mom though. My oldest sister raised me. She brought me and my other sister with her on dates, because my mom didn't want us there. She told me numerous times how I wasn't supposed to be born. The woman has hurt me. I'm just lucky enough to find a husband with a normal family that became my surrogate family. It can get better. I'm not telling you to stop talking to them, but maybe get therapy to help you through this. I know how hurtful it feels, and I'm so sorry you have to go through this. If you ever want to talk email me whenever you want. I just want you to know it will get better if you learn to build boundrys. Good luck to you and I'm there if you need me.Does anyone have a mother that is mentally ill?
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i do! my grandma had something mentally ill too. my father and my sister both left me with this mentally ill woman. im just waiting it out till im 18 and go off to college. im so sorry your going through this too.
My mother is bipolar. I'm 35 and have had to deal with this my whole life. I deal with her by ignoring her when she gets in one of her ';phases';. I had a hard time for many years trying to understand it all, and I never could. It was dragging me down horribly, and I didn't cope with it very well. It was affecting my personal life trying to deal with her, and it kept me upset all the time. After I realized that she couldn't help the things she did, and I couldn't change her, the only way I could help myself was to not allow myself to get too upset when she was having problems. I still have a difficult time sometimes with all of it, but the majority of the time, I just ignore her. I love her very much, but nothing I can do can help. I've accepted that, but sometimes I have to remind myself again to keep my own sanity.
My mother has been diagnosed with several mental illnesses from the time I was in probably 1st grade. It is absolutely one of the hardest things you can go through and it's one of those things that no one understands until you experience it first hand. I grew up being so ANGRY at my mom because of the way she treated me. It took me until I was 18 and moved away that I learned to forgive her because it wasn't really her that was hurting me- it was the mental illness. It is really hard for my mom, too , because she's tried several medications and nothing works for her. I feel like such a HORRIBLE person but I had to move away from my mom and the situation. I couldn't deal with it anymore. I would cry every night because it was so sad to see and there was absolutely nothing you could do about it. I wish I were stronger to see her more and be the daughter I should be but I just can't. I end up becoming depressed myself. I would suggest that you try getting her medical help if you haven't already. And just keep in mind that her actions aren't always her fault because of her condition. I know it's so hard. Good luck.
hi! I have a emotionally unstable mom too. whoopee, huh? I have anxiety and depression, and it's obviously my inheritance (I would have opted for cash!) My mom won't go on anti-depressents, tho she should. She's had a nervious breakdown and just abuses downers like theyr'e Sweet Tarts!My aunt has aluminum foil wallpapered on her ceiling, so ';they'; can't read her thoughts. I'm sure it must clash with her drapes! I never know when my mom calls if she's up or really down. I used to drink before I went over her home . ( and No, I wasn't driving) and as soon as I heard her voice on the phone, I'd be heading to the frig for my beer. I could slam 5 beers in one hour's worth of conversation! ...But that's called alcoholism...I now take my Paxil once a day, stopped drinkin' and try and not let her bring me into her ';moment.'; Misery loves company! My married sister is a chronic alcoholic, met boyfriend on sex internet, left her child to be with him across the country, and she's still the favorite. I have my own small business, own my own home, am a good mom and gramma, but I still think I am her third favorite..My sis is first, her t.v. second, then me? I know whine, whine, whine. But I get it. You have to, for your own well being, keep phone calls and visits short. Quit grinding your teeth , your jaws will thank you for it. Go see a doc for you and get some meds if necessary. You can't let her drag you into her little world that she's made hell. I did it for sooooo many years. I'm 48, now's my time, my hubby's time. I don't worry much about the stuff that would leave me uptight for days, especially when I find that after our visit (and a couple hours of her crying), she was off having a nice lunch with a friend (And she'd tell me what a wonderful time they had!). All I can say is GET YOURSELF HAPPY!!!!!!!