She has tried to kill herself and totally tries to convince everyone that she is the most sane, faithful, and incredible person in the world.
she is alone and constantly uses my boyfriend (only child) as her b---. its so upsetting!!! she has no boyfriend or husband and chooses to use him like he should do everything for her (like a spouse would.)
its ridiculous.
well I guess I am asking for your advice on what I should do to overcome this and these years ahead. I am a very assertive person and when someone is doing something I dont like, I have no problem telling them... but in this case I have chosen not too SOLELY for my boyfriend. I would love to hear your experiences with your mother in law/boyfriends mom (GOOD/BAD). and what you may have done to overcome the situation.
I dont think she has a problem with me (boyfriend + I have been dating 5 years this september) except for the huge fact that she is jealous of my relationship with him and the fact that he is all she has (bcz she has chosen to push EVERYONE away) and she isn't all he has.
helllllllp. [so stressed]
oh and she also has a very very mild case of MS and is totally bipolar (but will not admit to it).Mother in law, Boyfriend's mother... how do you deal with her?
The best way to get rid of an enemy is too turn it into a friend. Remember she's a sad and lonely person that is in real need of love,that's why she is so needy when it comes too your Boyfriend. What does he have to say too all this? You would be surprised how love can turn this around. You GO Girl, GOD BLESS !Mother in law, Boyfriend's mother... how do you deal with her?
my daughter married into a situation like you describe, and refused to believe us, when we tried to tell her that the mom was dangerous.
3 yrs later, the mom kidnapped her children, lied to the court, and the husband was too much of a coward to stand up to her.
You have a serious problem, if she is as bad as you say. Respecting her is not going to solve the issue, if she is mentally ill.
Just be nice to her. If she doesn't have a problem with you just work to keep it that way.
dno just fink about it thoroly k
my fiance had a very overbearing, psycho mother as well. i helped him to actually see how wrong she was being and what she was doing to him. sometimes they dont see because they are apart of it, but i think you really need to save him from his family and himself! make him see the truth from another perspective, he is probably very blind and manipulated. my fiance decided to cut contact with her over a year ago and he is the happiest he has ever been - and so are we. he says to this day it is the best decision has ever made and he is thankful. there comes a time when you need to grow as a person, as an adult and when you marry this man you will become his family and it is so important that he realises that YOU are number 1
Sounds to me like you need to talk to your boyfriend about this. Does he feel like you do? Obviously he's allowing her to do these things or she couldn't continue to do them. I completely understand about the having to deal with a crazy person thing, and you wanting to speak out, been there-still doing that! (Husband has a horrible ex wife). Try looking up sociopaths, see if she sounds like this, if so, do not do anything, try to ignore her. There's a great book called the sociopath next door that really helped me in dealing/NOT dealing with the ex.
If she's just a crazy mom who wants her son to herself, then it's going to be up to him to draw the line and put up some boundaries, and trust me, it'll be hard for you to deal with because YOU want to say something and help him handle it, but you can't. She'll see you as a threat, and even once he does say something (if he will), she's going to blame you and say you've brainwashed him.
It IS worth it though, I've been with my husband for 8 years now and despite the ex and her craziness, we're even more in love!
Stay strong, read, research, try to figure out what her main illness is, then research that and how to deal with it. Good luck to you! :)
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