You just turned 18 years old, your Mother sits you down to talk to you, she says..........?

The man you've called Dad all these years is not your biological father. What's your first reaction, and then how do you deal with it?You just turned 18 years old, your Mother sits you down to talk to you, she says..........?
Well, if he has been good to me, I would love him even more. If he hasn't been good to me, then the revelation would help me understand and I will begin to expect less from him. Either way, I would take the initiative to find out who my real dad was and under what circumstances I was born.You just turned 18 years old, your Mother sits you down to talk to you, she says..........?
Well of course your gonna throw a ***** fit on having her lie to you. Just dont blow off on her. It may or may not be her fault because maybe your real father was a dead beat dad you know. First let her explain everything to you and from there go on.....best of luck hun %26lt;3
I would imagine that you feel betrayed and hurt about now, does this man, that was known as your father, treat you like you're his daughter? do you feel as if this man, who has been there all these years, is still a father to you?

I would be upset, few wouldn't, but you have to look at this in a mature way.... not with betrayal and hurt mixed with a lot of anger, but, try to understand how they might have felt in NOT telling you.... did mom say why she kept it from you? there are always two stories to a story and I've known a few people in your shoes, there's anger, hurt and every other feeling in the world dumped on you right now.

I'd be hurt too. I'd be angry and fell betrayed... find out why....and go from there
Well, my father died when I was 7 so I might be excited.
First don't beat yourself up for being pissed...BUT you have to take sometime and think it through. I'm sure you know your mom loves you so that rules out her doing it to hurt you so therefore she had to have a good reason. Being a 22 year old guy, some dudes make babies and do some F*cked up sh*t(excuse my french) So maybe thats why she hasn't told you so try not to be too angry at her...Second if your step-father has been there and taken care of you, THAT IS YOUR FATHER!!! Take a step back and look at the whole situation, A nice lady with a baby and a guy who likes the lady but can easily turn his head when he sees the child(A LOT, I MEAN A LOT of guys would turn away and forget about it) but he stayed and raised you as his own so that speaks volumes. To do that he has to love you like his own son you could of grew up without a father at all but you didn't so before you look at all the bad, you can't help but appreciate the good thats in it...Good Luck man and God Bless
Why? are you writing a book? I would say disbelief and anger would be the most common reactions.



I actually know someone this happened to but he was 26 when he found out. He has not had a good relationship with his mother ever since because it was due to her manipulation (his biological father never even knew about him). He loved his a-father though and they remain close. He also has a good relationship with his biofather and his family.



I found out my grandfather was originally a stepgrandfather who adopted my mother. I was relieved. He was an angry, angry man.
i would be very upset and probly be very confused with my life.i would wonder who was my real father and i would think that if this man took care of my all my life he is a Father he doesn't biologically be a father cause thats not what makes someone a father. i would work that there was something else hidden.