How can you deal with extreme social ostracism on behalf ofyour mother ?? Only serious anwers?

your mother rejects you very strongly but shows this only to you

and very clearly only in certain moments, when you expect it the

least . The reason is that you cannot have children and that

you may have a not fully developed 2nd x-chromosome (not

definite since you did not want to have a definite diagnosis done )How can you deal with extreme social ostracism on behalf ofyour mother ?? Only serious anwers?
Honestly. I would call her out on it and if she continues to do it I would tell her to kiss off.

Would you tolerate this behavior from a co-worker or friend? Most likely not. We tolerate too much from loved ones because the fact that they are our loved ones...especially parents.

My philosophy though is they were truely ';loved ones'; they wouldnt treat you like that.

Tell her you deserve better treatment. She may not realize she is doing it.How can you deal with extreme social ostracism on behalf ofyour mother ?? Only serious anwers?
This seems like something where you just sort of have to bite the bullet. I think that the fact that your mother rejects you only in moments when she has childbirth (or a lack thereof) on her mind has significantly less to do with you than it does with her own insecurities regarding the fact that her family bloodline may be damaged by your lack of an ability to have children. Just remember that this makes no difference on the level of love she has toward you; she just has a less-than-stellar way of dealing with a personal insecurity, and you would be all the better as a person for it by just dealing with her insecurity.
Love - maternal or otherwise - is unconditional. It is hard to change someone incapable of true love. Your physical condition is only an ';excuse'; for the ostracism. If it is not one excuse, it is some other. You cannot placate an ';impossible'; demand. Your best shot would be to strike out and live your own life. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. You sound like you are a very sensitive person and it hurts and hurts badly.
Your mother has what's called a ';toxic'; personality. She is mean to you so that she can get sadistic satisfaction out of it but she's nice to everyone else so she can be accepted by them- this is not a healthy combination.



Honestly, her ostracism says much more about her than about you. While you have not chosen your own biological state, she has chosen her mental one. In other words, you didn't choose to be someone who can't have children, but she DID choose to be mean to you about it.



Above all, remember that you are not just imagining things. Just because your mother is mean to you and not to others does not mean that you are just imagining her rejection. It means that she has an unbalanced personality. Do what you can to help her be a better person, but if it becomes obvious that she will not (or cannot) change, the best thing you can do (for you and for her) is to cut your losses and form relationships with people who aren't so mentally and emotionally unbalanced.