How quickly do you get angry when you deal with your parents?

I'm a 23 year old woman who lives with my mom. I am moving out of this hell hole within the next 6 months (THANK GOD!). I'm curious about people's relations with their parents. My parents are not intelligent people. I can't go into deep detail without writing a novel but to put it simply: my father has childlike mannerisms, as well as a child like mind, and is very selfish when it comes to anything; my mother's second language is English, she can't speak it perfectly, but she's been in America for more than 30 years, and her personality is very harsh, loud, and obnoxious, at least dealing with me. There is somewhat of a language barrier between my mom and I but it's not a large one, she just doesn't listen to me. I told her one thing yesterday and she argued with me about what I said and then my BFF, who lives here as well, said the same exact thing and all of a sudden she understood it. He literally repeated almost word for word what I said.



Anyway, how quickly do you get angry when you deal with your parents? I had an encounter with my mom as SOON as I opened the door. She heard my door open so of course she calls me into her room and we start arguing about my car. She can't leave me the hell alone. I get angry with her very very quickly because for 23 years I've dealt with both of my parents laziness, intrusiveness, and everything else. My mom can be motherly but at this point in life, I see her as an annoying pest.



I haven't had to deal with my dad for a few years except for the occasional time he comes over for free food but there's going to be a big issue with him coming up about a lease he's trying to get my friend to sign..



Anyway.. I would like some opinions on the matter..



P.S. I don't want answers telling me to just get along. You clearly have a perfect relationship with you parents so no need to reply. %26lt;/sarcasm%26gt;How quickly do you get angry when you deal with your parents?
for me, it depends on the parent.

my parents divorced when i was like two.

my mom drives me insane. i feel the same way as you sometimes. anything i say or comment about, she starts to throw a fit and starts to argue with me. and she evens like to make up stuff and its so pathetic. i feel like because im a whole different generation than her that i have like our IQ's have a 23897456457 difference. lol

because once i say something too much in detail she has to like stop and give me her dumb face and try to figure it out and that irritates the crap out of me and blah blah blah that turns into arguements.

i recently moved in with my dad, i still see my mom but not as much.

but the thing is my dad actually supports me in everything i do. my mom is just selfish and only likes to do what is convienent for her. shes about 43 yeasr old and still hasnt finished going to college for being a teacher. she has a shitty job and shes a penny pincher. so she doesnt like it when i take long showers, or need a ride to somplace, or hold the fridge open for too long; the list goes on and on. she just doesnt want whats best for me, just her. and i know that sounds selfish but in a way its not.

my dad on the other hand.. i love him to death. and i feel that maybe because im so much like him, maybe thats why my mom and i dont get along very well (remember my parents divorced? :]). he's a quite guy who is SO very very selfless and he wants whats best for me and i appreciate him all that much more than say my mom. i just think when we all hit a certain age, our parents somehow start disliking us that much more and are jealous of our youth ;] lol just a thought.



well i wish you the best of luck %26amp;%26amp; thanks for hearing me out :]How quickly do you get angry when you deal with your parents?
well sometimes its the same for me... i open the gate come in... %26amp; we start fighting.... this is with mom...

With dad even if i get angry i CANT argue... lol
P.S. I don't want answers telling me to just get along. You clearly have a perfect relationship with you parents so no need to reply. %26lt;/sarcasm%26gt;



I have an almost perect relation with my mother now but i used to have one that sounded like yours.



....And with a little counselling you can get some help.

SYKE!



What i did when i was in a really bad time was i treated my mother the way ';A MOTHER'; not ';YOUR MOTHER'; deserves to be treated. Once you address your mother with calmness and praise, despite her attitude and all of it, you will discover that she has just been acting they way she does as product of your bad communicative relation with her. She might have her own more personal problems too which you might not know of.

Just try it for some time. Change the shoes you wear with your mothers and think of what you would want.



I hope I helped and i wish your relationship with her gets better.