How do you deal with your man's past baby momma?

every time she calls him it drives me crazy. they have a daughter together and he says that she calls him only to talk about their daughter but i think there's more. when i ask him about it he blows up about me not trusting him. how do i get over being so angry that he still has to maintain a relationship with his daughters mother?How do you deal with your man's past baby momma?
Well, if you feel there is more and you aren't an overly jealous person, then you may feel that way for a reason. But if you are just a jealous, suspicious person with your man, for no real reason... then you will just have to try harder to give him the chance to handle it. But don't put it past his baby's momma that she wouldn't love to make you miserable by thinking something is going on. So be cool. He shouldn't have to go to another room to talk to her if it is about their daughter, or meet her all the time. If you are the type that talks trash when he is on the phone with her you have to stop. Instead act calm and cool while you sit by and pretend not to hear what he is saying to her. But just use common sense. If there is too much junk going on to ignore then you are probably right. To be sure change your behavior and make it seem like you are now gonna play nice and as he sees you control yourself ...you can get in the mix enough to know what is really going on. My ex did the same junk so I have plenty of tips just e-mail me, I will be glad to help.How do you deal with your man's past baby momma?
You pray and ask God to remove these feelings from your heart.


And you should be happy that he has a connection to his child, most men act as if when the relationship with the mom ends the relationship with the child has ended also. Try to be patient, and just let him know that you would feel better about the whole situation, if he were more understanding about how you are feeling, and stopped getting angry.


But stop saying anything to him when she calls, sometimes females call more than they should knowing it will drive the new female crazy.


Don't give her that much power, act like you don't even care, even if you have to go somewhere and scream just don't do it in front of him. Good luck.............
I am currently dating a guy that has a child with another woman. I came into this relationship knowing he keeps in contact with the mother of his daughter, but only to talk about their daughter. I trust that is all they talk about, I don't question him about it, I don't try to listen to the conversations, and I even know they sometimes see each other for school functions and dance recitals and such. It was something I thought long and hard about before I got into it. You have to be sure that this is something you can deal with before you start dating men with children. The most important thing is that you trust him, if you don't then it will not work. Good luck!
You knew he had a daughter by another woman when you got into the relationship correct? You made a decision at that point that there was something about this man that you wanted to get closer to. His daughter is part of him and therefore unfortunately so is baby mamma.


Keep reminding yourself that there is a reason that they aren't together and that he is chosing to be with you now.


Chose to deal with it or chose to leave, those are the only choices you have, because trust me you won't win the battle of making him choose between talking to her or listening to you complain every time he does.
He is a father.





His number ONE priority for the rest of his life SHOULD be his daughter!





You don't say how old the child is... if she is little then this is a fresh wound for the ';past baby momma'; and you should expect a lot of interaction with her and the child.





If you are just dating and not married then you need to either 1) become a loving, understanding partner and accept that you will never and should never be the number one woman in his life. or 2) find a man that does not have a child with another woman and who can devote his love and attention to you.





If you are married...then you need to sit down and tell him that you trust him...but not the ex. That you are a family now and invite her and the child over to make them part of your new family.





Personally? I would run.
I know how you feel, My husband has a baby mother who is a real bi*ch and very jealous. This is a long story but to make a long story short, I now have 4 children with her ex-boyfriend they were never married but at the time I only had 2 children and she was so jealous she called children services on me to try to have the children removed from my house because she felt like if he could not be there for there son then he should not be there for my children. I was so upset that I did it right back to her and ever since then she respected me and knows that she can't play games with me. She use too always call my husband for every little thing and that got on my nerves because my husband would say I have to go over there real quick to discipline him he is acting up. She would also call and say to him to come over and throw out the garbage. I was like WTF!!! is she out of her mine, I told him he better not go over, or else. I have so much to say but just know that you have to be strong and put your foot down and not let her get away with anything that she does or say. If he is your husband you are in control not her. Good Luck!!!
You grow up. He has a past just like you do. If you had children with an ex, you would have to deal with them. It is always best to maintain a friendly relationship with an ex and most especially when there are children involved. Just because he talks to her doesn't mean that he's interested in doing anything with her or having anything with her. Jealousy is a personal issue, inside of you, that you need to deal with.
There is not much u can do if he say that there is nothing on believe him and if something happens for u not to trust him then dont.


Other wise the problem is usually the kid mother might want him back but also u must find out if he is paying support who knows she could be calling about not getting money, If u r in a relationship u must make sure that he is giving her money for the child because if he is not then if one day u ahave a child with him he will not be taking care of your kid.
Stop being so seflish, for one. Just because you're his girl now doesn't give you the right to stop him from having contact with the mother of his child. Think about the child. It's in her best interest to have parents who are able to communicate positively. If you really love this man, you also must love his child and you must put the needs of his child above your own insecurities and jealousy.





If he's going to go behind your back with his ex, it's going to happen with or without you driving yourself (and him) crazy with your jealousy issues.
Is it safe to say you are young with not too much life experience? These feelings will go away with time. Braise yourself, the mom will always be there, the baby will always be there so my advice to you is: if you want to spend the rest of your life with this man ...make her a friend. When she shows up at your door invite her in for a coffee, tell her you like her outfit and where she shops, ask her advice on what is her daughter's favorite deserts, favorite food etc. Act civil with her, she will act civil with you.
hate to break it to you, but he comes with baggage.





if you can't handle it, then for all your sakes, you need to walk.





what will happen when he starts having his daughter over for visits? she will sense your resentment and it will poison her relationship with her father -- that's a cruel thing to do to a child.
when you took the man,you took both daughter and mom.you could be overreacting.if you can,t accept the extra baggage then you cannot accept the man.would you have him ignore his daughter or her care.if i was your man and you got angry over my daughter i would tell you get the hell out
well if he cared he would understand why it may bother you that they still comunicate therefore he should not ';blow up'; on you... at the same time you do know that it is important that they stay in contact for the sake of the child.. but either way he should still comfort you.. or only talk to her when you're present to resolve the conflict between you two.
If this is your husband (not a boyfriend) than you simply need to deal with your insecurities. If a boyfriend, well you still need to deal with your insecurities but you might consider finding a guy WITH-OUT children and the drama of a babby momma.
By not having a relationship with a man who dumped his load into another broad.





I mean...really. Get real. You knew he came with this baggage so get over it. You're the one with the problem...not him or the ex. And keep this crap up and watch him make a run for the ex. then your worst fears will come true. All by your doing too.
The best thing to do is to associate yourself with men who have not impregnated other women and then walked away. It's not about the baby mama driving you nuts; it's about the baby daddy being irresponsible. Find somebody better to associate with and you won't have these issues.
I want to know what the hell a baby mama is. Is it baby's mama. Why are young adults and teenagers refusing to use proper grammar. And what do you mean his past baby's mama? She is still his bab'y mom. That will never be in the past. She will always be the baby's mama.
First of all, if she's causing problems in your relationship already that's not going to change. She's going to be around forever. So you can:


1. Get used to it and learn to accept it


2. Leave, because it's not going to change.
Get happy with yourself. If you have REAL proof of something more, then you can bombard him and accuse him, until then quit being jealous and learn to love yourself and your relationship.
This is why I didn't date guys with kids. It would be to much for me to handle! Either you get use to her being in his life or you end the relationship and find somone else who doesn't have kids.
you are being totally selfish. They will always have a relationship because they have a child together. If you can't get over that then you need to move on and find yourself a new man.
What do you expect, they have a child together, that ties them together for life. If you can't get over it, then don't date guys with kids! It's totally YOUR problem!
You chose to stay with him and you know about the situation, so either deal with it or leave.
Please take it to Jerry Springer.
First of all stick with your intuition...thats why we got it.


If he is blowing up it can me 1 of 2 things. 1. He really is sick and tired of you always asking him **** about them....which leads in to 2. He's still boneing her.





Does he go to his BMs house by his self?


you can fix that go with him.


Does he stay out late at night?


Is there anyother reason than that to believe that he is cheatin on you.





A phone conversation is just a phone conversation. They could be friends.


but If he leave the room while hes talkin to her thats a bad thing


if he whispers on the phone thats another bad thing





Just look for the signs because if he is cheating on you believe all the signs are staring you right in the face.